Don’t Spend Your Life Seeking Approval from Others

I was listening to one of Joel Osteen’s podcasts and it was about “Not Living for Approval.” This struck a chord with me because I didn’t realize that for most of my life I was living for approval. I was living for approval from my family (particularly my father), co-workers, bosses, and friends. I was taken aback because I consider myself a strong personality who doesn’t care what people think — apparently I was wrong. I began my emotional and spiritual transformation three years ago and it has opened eyes to the many wonders of life.

I’m done living for approval. The only approval I seek is from me! What people think of me is none of my business. If my career choice or lifestyle doesn’t mesh with what others think my career or lifestyle should be, it will not hurt my feelings. I learned to walk away from people no matter who they are. Most people can’t do this because they buy into the belief that their family is everything to them. This may be true for some but not for others. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes family and friends won’t give you their approval. You must be strong enough to say, “That’s okay, but I’m pursuing my dreams anyway.” Don’t allow anyone to deter you from your path. It may be difficult in the beginning but it will get easier.

Seeking approval from others is a form of control and manipulation. Your belief is that you must control others in order to get what you want which is their approval. You believe you must sacrifice what’s in your heart in order to receive approval from others. This is a lot of work! Don’t be fooled by false promises. If people want to give your their approval, they’ll give it to you.

Approve of yourself. Love yourself fully and watch as the world before you transforms. Get out of your head (easier said than done) and start living. Who cares what people think? Stop putting emphasis on what your family members think about you because you’ll drive yourself crazy! You can’t please everyone — please yourself. Life’s too short to be worried about what others think if you do this or that. Start living and stop being an approval seeker.


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