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Don’t Spend Your Life Seeking Approval from Others

December 15, 2010 by

I was listening to one of Joel Osteen’s podcasts and it was about “Not Living for Approval.” This struck a chord with me because I didn’t realize that for most of my life I was living for approval. I was living for approval from my family (particularly my father), co-workers, bosses, and friends. I was taken aback because I consider myself a strong personality who doesn’t care what people think — apparently I was wrong. I began my emotional and spiritual transformation three years ago and it has opened eyes to the many wonders of life.

I’m done living for approval. The only approval I seek is from me! What people think of me is none of my business. If my career choice or lifestyle doesn’t mesh with what others think my career or lifestyle should be, it will not hurt my feelings. I learned to walk away from people no matter who they are. Most people can’t do this because they buy into the belief that their family is everything to them. This may be true for some but not for others. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes family and friends won’t give you their approval. You must be strong enough to say, “That’s okay, but I’m pursuing my dreams anyway.” Don’t allow anyone to deter you from your path. It may be difficult in the beginning but it will get easier.

Seeking approval from others is a form of control and manipulation. Your belief is that you must control others in order to get what you want which is their approval. You believe you must sacrifice what’s in your heart in order to receive approval from others. This is a lot of work! Don’t be fooled by false promises. If people want to give your their approval, they’ll give it to you.

Approve of yourself. Love yourself fully and watch as the world before you transforms. Get out of your head (easier said than done) and start living. Who cares what people think? Stop putting emphasis on what your family members think about you because you’ll drive yourself crazy! You can’t please everyone — please yourself. Life’s too short to be worried about what others think if you do this or that. Start living and stop being an approval seeker.

Rebecca

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7 Ways Harry Potter’s Charm ‘Expecto Patronum’ Can Protect You

November 17, 2010 by

We can learn a lot from Harry Potter who’ll be wrapping up the multi-billion dollar movie franchise in 2011. In case you didn’t know, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part I will be in theaters on November 19, 2010 — Part II will be in theaters in 2011.

One of the charms Harry and the other students learn at Hogwarts is ‘Expecto Patronum’ which produces a Patronus. For those of you unfamiliar with the magical world of Harry Potter, a Patronus is a protector, a positive force that takes the shape of an animal. You must think of a very happy, powerful memory for your Patronus to protect you from a Dementor or a human who’s acting like a Dementor. You must focus and allow your memory to fill you up. By the way, Harry Potter’s Patronus is a powerful Stag!

Believe it or not, ‘Expecto Patronum’ can protect you in your everyday life. All of us have family members, co-workers, bosses, spouses, and other people that act like Dementors. They can ‘suck the life out of you’ in less than 2.5 seconds! Instead of getting angry or irritated, think of your favorite, most powerful memory and say ‘Expecto Patronum’ and watch as your Patronus creates a barrier between you and them. You’ll be protected and feel much better.

7 ways ‘Expecto Patronum’ can protect you

  • Protect you from negative energy at work
  • Protect your from negative energy when you go shopping
  • Protect you from negative people in your home
  • Protect you from relatives during the holidays who’ll ask you “Why are you still single?” or “What do you mean you don’t plan on having children?”
  • Protect you from the ‘real life’ Dementors in your life
  • Protect you from negative energy when you’re driving
  • Protect you from negative energy whenever you communicate with anyone via phone or email

Some people may have a difficult time using the ‘Expecto Patronum’ charm on loved ones but it may necessary to use it from time-to-time. Your well-being is important, and you won’t be able to help others if your energy is sapped all of the time. Do what you can to take care of yourself because there’s only one of you!

Use the ‘Expecto Patronum’ charm with care and if that doesn’t work, try the ‘Stupefy’ spell which “knocks out” your opponent. They probably can use a good nap and will feel refreshed when they wake up. Hopefully, they won’t remember you ‘Stupefied’ them. Then again, you can always use the ‘Obliviate’ charm to erase their memory of it!

Rebecca

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Curious about Cellular Memory and Past Lives

April 10, 2009 by

What happens if you transplant a heart from one human being to another? Is it possible that the cellular memory from the person’s donated heart will transfer to its new owner? This may sound like science fiction to some people, but there have been documented cases about cellular memory.

Cellular Memory and Organ Transplants

Here’s an excerpt from Candace Pert, author of Molecules of Emotion: Why You Feel the Way You Feel, says, “…Memories are stored not only in the brain, but in a psychosomatic network extending into the body . . . all the way out along pathways to internal organs and the very surface of our skin.”

Pert suggests thoughts and memories still remain at the unconscious level. They can, however, become conscious, thus making it possible of a physiological connection between your memories, organs and mind.

Is it possible that you can take on the emotions and thoughts of a person’s heart or liver that was put into your body? The following is from San Francisco Medicine, “…Paul Pearsall, MD, a psychoneuroimmunologist and author of The Heart’s Code, has researched the transference of memories through organ transplantation. After interviewing nearly 150 heart and other organ transplant recipients, Pearsall proposes the idea that cells of living tissue have the capacity to remember.”

Cellular Memory and Past Lives

Cellular memory is can be defined as whatever happen in our lives is recorded within the cells of our body. If you experience anger, body pain, or unhappiness, these would be recorded within the cells of your body. Some people take this concept further — believing that you carry with you the pain of previous lives. Past lives are another hot, controversial topic. Some people believe in them, some don’t. It’s a personal belief.

If we are made up of individual cells, wouldn’t make sense that these living and breathing organism contain memory? Many people would say yes — skeptics will say no. Perhaps we will not know for sure until we depart this Earth, but it’s something to think about if you’re feeling “off” within your body. Maybe it’s not the “present you” that is feeling anger or pain. Perhaps the “previous you” from another lifetime is wreaking havoc on your current life.

Do you believe in cellular or organ memory? Why? Why not?

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Discover How to Get Out of a Bad Mood

January 29, 2009 by

Being in a bad mood can be bad for your health. Frowning all of the time can leave your mouth full of lines. If you’re going to have lines, why not have laugh lines instead of frowning ones? Remember, you always have a choice. You can either stay in a bad mood or snap out of it. If you don’t you could earn the nickname Ms. or Mr. Crabby Pants!

They say laughter is the best medicine. If this is true, why are so many people in bad moods? They also say misery loves company. You may consider being more mindful of the company you keep. The people you hang out with could be slowly killing you. The more stress you are under, the more pressure your heart is under.

You can apply the old age wisdom of mind over matter. There is no reason for you to stay in a bad mood all day. You can choose to move to a place that feels better. When you’re in a bad mood, you put your body in the “flight or fright” mode. Your muscles will become tense and your pulse races. This is not good for your body.

Tips to Get Out of a Bad Mood

  1. Laugh.
  2. Take a walk.
  3. Surf YouTube for funny videos.
  4. Think about something to be grateful for
  5. Just smile.
  6. Listen to music.

A change of scenery can do wonders for you. Go for a drive or walk through the park. Getting out in nature will snap you out of a bad mood. Breathing the fresh air and feeling the sun on your face will lift your spirits.

If you’re a coffee lover, go for a great cup of coffee at your favorite café. Breath in the deep, rich aroma of the coffee. Pickup a local newspaper or buy a magazine, and you’ll make a speedy recovery. You’ll be so relaxed that you’ll forget what set you off.

Journaling is a great way to vent your anger and frustrations. Getting it on paper is better than taking it out on someone else. If you are susceptible to bad moods, you may discover what is causing them. It could be that you are feeling stuck in your life and you’re ready for change.

Do not stay in a bad mood because life is too short. You can be living life to its fullest. The next time you feel a “bad mood” coming on strong, stop it before it gets out of control. Count to 10, take a deep breath, and say to yourself “this to shall pass.” Give it a try and see what happens.

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