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Do You Suffer from the Disease to Please? Good News, Antidote is Finally Discovered…

November 15, 2008 by

Many people could use an antidote for the “disease to please.” For those who suffer from this horrible disease, there is good news. An antidote has been discovered and is readily available. The best part is that it’s free! You do not have to make an appointment with a specialist, file an insurance claim, or take medication.

First, this disease is more prevalent than many people think. Some people do not even know they have the disease to please. They walk around with the symptoms but do not recognize them. These people are said to be in the “closet” about the disease to please. They have an addiction but cannot and do not recognize it.

Symptoms of Disease to Please

  1. Worry constantly about what the in-laws will think if you miss the holidays because of illness or other obligations.
  2. Believe that you are not good enough.
  3. Constantly feel run-down and do not have any energy.
  4. Analyze your conversations with others to see if you said something wrong.
  5. Give of yourself until there’s nothing left to give.
  6. Do not know how to say NO!
  7. Afraid to disappoint other people.

If you have any of the above the symptoms then you have the disease to please. Stay calm and do not panic. The antidote is available for the millions of people who suffer from this disease. Here’s the antidote: take control of your life, speak up for yourself, put the “victim mentality” to rest, and do not let others control your self-worth! This is the antidote for the disease to please.

It’s so simple to obtain the antidote for the disease to please, yet many people suffer from it every day. It’s time to stop being a victim of your own cause. You are responsible for your own life; you are not responsible for others!

You have the right to choose. You can choose to be happy or sad. You can choose to stay in the role of the victim or become a victor. The power is within you to change your life. Do not let others run your life!

Before you decide to take the antidote for the disease the please, you must take certain steps to ensure the disease does not return.

Steps to Prepare Yourself for the Antidote

  1. Set your boundaries.
  2. Learn to say NO!
  3. Speak up for yourself and ask for what you want.
  4. Say an affirmation: “My needs are always met and are important as yours.”
  5. Eliminate the words “should, ought to, and have to” from your vocabulary!
  6. Do something for yourself.

The most important relationship is the one with yourself! Make the decision today to take the antidote for the disease to please. Be true to who you are and no one else. If others reject the new you, so be it. Your life is yours to live and you must do what is best for you!

Living with the disease to please is horrible because you are susceptible to manipulation and abuse. Take your power back today, wipe out the disease to please, and live a better life tomorrow!

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Escape Your Mind and Find Freedom Outside of Yourself

October 23, 2008 by

Many people are constantly in their head. Of course, some of these people are writers so they’re always in their head because it’s part of their job.

For those of you who are not writers, being a prisoner of your mind may slowly drive you and the people around you insane! Freedom can be yours if you put your mind to it.

The worst “mind-crime” committed by people is negative self-talk. Negative chatter not only affects you, but everyone around you. This can include someone in a country far away such as Hungary. If you do not believe this to be true, just take a stroll through Barnes and Noble or any other bookstore. The New Age, Spirituality, and or Science sections of book stores are packed with books on “mind control.” Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” is very popular. Other books include Sandra Anne Taylor’s “Quantum Success.”

8 Ways to Escape Your Mind

  1. Meditate. A great way to re-center yourself.
  2. Yoga. Stretch the mind and body to align with your spirit.
  3. Deep breathing exercises. Releases the tension within your body.
  4. Listening to music. Whether you listen to metal, rock, jazz, pop, or indie, music will soothe your soul.
  5. Painting, drawing, or some other art project. Studies have shown that being creative enriches the brain.
  6. Go for a walk. A low impact exercise that will do your mind and body good.
  7. Let go. If you’re trying to force circumstances in your life such as relationships and careers, the best way is to detach and let go. If you want quick results, detachment is key.
  8. Journal. Release your thoughts onto paper in the morning or at night. A technique used by shamans is to write your thoughts on paper and then burn the paper. If you choose to do this, please be careful. You do not want Smokey the Bear showing up!

The mind is a powerful tool. Look at how far we’ve come with technologies, health care, and space exploration. If these are not indicators of how powerful the mind can be, then what is?

Free yourself from the trappings of your mind today and tomorrow your future will be brighter. Whether or not you believe in a collective consciousness, tune into the radio or watch television. The media constantly reports on the fears Americans have about America’s economic situation and now these fears have spread around the world.

Review the headlines of your local newspapers. If you’re still not convinced that the mind is a powerful instrument, take a look at your own life and “mind your thoughts” for a week or two. See what manifests in your life. You may or may not be pleasantly surprised!

Are you a victim of your own mind or someone else’s? What are you doing to break free?

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8 Ways to Save Money Now That Will Pay Off Later

October 11, 2008 by

The U.S.’s economic situation is being felt around the world. Last week was the worst week for the stock market. People are bailing out left and right. Is that a wise thing to do? No, it’s not. Fear is like a disease that infests one person and then spreads like wildfire to others. That’s exactly what is happening right now. Americans are scared to death and are salvaging what they can. On the flip side, those with money will find great bargains on wall street and will be able to turn a profit when the stocks go up.

Perhaps the “economic crisis” in America will teach people a valuable lesson or two. First, do not live beyond your means. People who knew they could not afford the $400,000 house are learning that lesson right now. Second, cut back on expenses. Is it necessary to eat out 3 to 4 times week? Why not prepare a home cooked meal with the family gathered around the table? This is a great way for parents to interact with their children and find out what they are doing or not doing.

People who “tighten their money belt” now will save later. How do you save when you have a family of four or are a single person living on your own? Here are some money saving tips.

Tips to Save Money

  1. Cut back on going out to eat.
  2. Skip the Starbucks, donut shop, or bakery.
  3. Carpool if you can.
  4. Use coupons. Some grocery stores offer double and triple coupons and will accept competitors coupon.
  5. Sell items on Craigslist and eBay. Go through the house and see what can be sold. If something has not been used in a year, it will not be used at all. Sell it!
  6. Cut back on entertainment. Wait until movies come out on video and rent them from the video store or library. As far as concerts go, choose one that you will really enjoy. Before you agree to see Motley Crue (that’s another article), remember, it’s Motley Crue. Speaking from experience, go with the Metallica tickets. It will be a better show. Remember, your time is just as valuable as your money.
  7. Go to FREE events within your community.
  8. Take your lunch to work instead of buying it every day.

Money that you save can be put into a savings account (FDIC insured), Treasury Bills, or Treasury Money Market funds. Be smart with your money and it will take you far. Remember, you are the master of your money; it’s not the master of you.

Saving money is a mindset. You will either save money or not. Most people would like to own their own home, but it may not be feasible at this time. As mom used to say “patience is a virtue.” For now be happy with the things in your life such as good health, family, and friends. You may live in a one bedroom apartment, but at least you are in perfect health!

Bonus

  1. Do not grocery shop on an empty stomach! People who shop when they’re hungry usually spend more. Make sure you eat breakfast before going to the grocery store.
  2. If products come with a rebate, redeem them, and save the money!

How are you saving money? Do you have any suggestions you would like to share?

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Relationship Rules That Rule!

September 22, 2008 by

Human beings are social creatures. We need intimacy, to be loved, and to love. Yet, many people have trouble with relationships. Most people have no idea of what a healthy relationship is because of their past. God only knows what happened in their childhood or in their young adult life that made them wary of connecting with others.

According to Hara Estroff Marano’s article on Psychology Today, there are “some basic rules of relationships.” For example, “choose a partner wisely and well. We are attracted to people for all kinds of reasons. They remind us of someone from our past. They shower us with gifts and make us feel important. Evaluate a potential partner as you would a friend; look at their character, personality, values, their generosity of spirit, the relationship between their words and actions, their relationships with others.”

Tips on Relationships

  1. Do not confuse sex with love! Many people do this in their relationships which is why they do not work out. While you are at it, do not confuse lust with love! You may think that you love that man or woman, but in reality it’s only lust.
  2. Do you respect yourself? If you do not respect yourself, your partner will not respect you. Mutual respect and understanding of another is important in a relationship.
  3. Open and honest communication is key! Honesty and trust can do wonders for a relationship. Without these two components, your relationship may not last that long. If something is bothering you, speak up because your partner is not a mind reader. Unless, of course, you are dating or married to a psychic then it will not matter if you speak up because they will already know what is wrong.
  4. Apologize if you make a mistake! Many people have trouble admitting when they are wrong. It’s not that difficult to do. You are human, so you will make mistakes. Remember, the world will not end because you made a mistake! Just admit that you were wrong and ask for forgiveness. It will be a great learning experience for you.

Relationships do not have to be difficult. Be sure that open and honest communication is present in your relationship. Do not be totally dependent on your partner. It’s not their job to make you happy. That’s your responsibility. Remember, to love yourself first. If you cannot love yourself, how can you love someone else?

Your time on planet Earth may be short. Would you rather enjoy it in a fun-loving relationship or one that brings you drama? The choice is yours.

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