What is Woundology?

Question: I just discovered Caroline Myss and she used the term ‘woundology‘ in her presentation “Why People Don’t Heal?” What does woundology mean? How can you permanently heal your wounds? I’d like to heal my wounds once and for all. I journal, meditate, listen to podcasts, burn incense and sage, etc. and nothing seems to work. Help!

Answer: Woundology means you use your wounds — you cling to your wounds. According to Caroline Myss, “Woundology is a very expensive habit to keep a wound alive. The energy comes out of your system, your cell system.” According to the Halexandria Foundation, “Woundology is also a form of scapegoatology which means outside events and others are blamed for what a wounded person experiences.” We have the power to heal from our wounds; however, to do so, means we must give up ‘being right’ for being happy.

When you carry your problems with you everywhere you go, you’re practicing the art of woundology. For example, gave you ever met someone who’s told you their life story in a matter of minutes? They were practicing woundology. However, the person believes they’re sharing their life’s story. They can’t see what they’re truly doing. Let’s face it; we’ve all done this at one point or have done this. I have and now realize the error of my way. Now, wonder I’ve been feeling stuck in a funk for the past year (or more).

FYI: Some experts believe woundology is a form of addiction. Instead of being addicted to drugs and alcohol, gambling, smoking, being right, attention, people pleasing, being a rescuer or victim, food, sex, the internet, movies and television, working out, shopping, relationships, traveling, etc. people are addicted to their pain.

Recognize and heal your wounds today by getting in touch with your emotions and exploring them. The next time you’re tempted to share your life’s story with someone, ask yourself a few questions such as:

  • Why am I doing this?
  • What do I get from this?
  • What’s motivating me to share my story?

Woundology is a way to control and manipulate the people around you. It’s a way to get their attention or for them to rescue you. The truth is you can only rescue and save you. If you wait for others to do it, you’ll be waiting for a long time. Life will pass you by and you’ll be left wondering, “Where did my life go?” However, you can heal your wounds today, and tomorrow life will be easier and happier.


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How to Reduce and Cut Your Exposure to Toxic People


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Question: I feel some people are toxic to me. The kicker is the only communication (if any) I have with them is through Facebook. These people really don’t have anything to do with me; we don’t have anything in common except being related. I would like to reduce my exposure to them. Help!

Answer: The question to ask is, “Does this honor me? How does this honor me?Does this relationship honor me? It may be time to reduce your exposure to toxic people.

How to reduce your exposure to toxic people

1. If you’re having issues with toxic people, be honest about the relationships you have with them. It may be in your best interest to reduce the amount of time you spend with them. Of course, you may have to cut them out of your life completely. The choice is yours.

2. Clear your chakras through meditation. Your third chakra is probably being sucked dry by toxic people. Call on Archangel Michael and ask him to cut your chords and clear your chakras.

3. Just say No. Find the courage to honor you and say “No” to people. If they get upset with you that’s their problem; they’ll have to work it out. It has nothing to do with you — it has to do with them. Move forward with your life and don’t look back.

Affirmations from Sandra Anne Taylor

  • I have so much to be grateful for. Every day, I notice these things more and more. I look around and am satisfied.
  • I’m letting go of the negative interpretations of my life. I find many wonderful things to appreciate each day.
  • I often take time for single moments of appreciation. I smile and name what I enjoy. I say “Thank You” to the universe.
  • I appreciate myself and my life more and more each day. I deserve my OWN gratitude.

You can reduce your exposure to toxic people no matter who they are including family. This can be scary but it will behoove you to limit the time you communicate and spend with these people. Send them lots of love and wish them well. See them happy and healthy. However, it’s up to them if they’re open to receiving your loving energy. They may not be open to it or want to receive. Be okay with this. Remember, it’s not your job to ‘fix’ people.


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Boo! How to Scare Your Problems Away


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My Fellow Students of Life,

I watched Meet the Parents a few days ago because I needed to laugh. There was one scene that caught my attention. Teri Polo‘s character, Pam Burns, is a school teacher. Unbeknownst to her, Ben Stiller‘s character, Greg (Gaylord) Focker, is on his way to propose to her. Anyway, Pam was teaching her class how to scare their problems away. She had the kids close their eyes and visualize their problem. Once they had their problem in their ‘mind’s’ eye, she told to say “Boo!” to their problem — scare it away. I’ve watched Meet the Parents many time but never picked up on the significance of that scene. I too will scare my problems away by saying “Boo!”

How to scare your problems away

1. Visualize your problem in your mind’s eye and say “Boo!” to it.

2. Rise above it. Be courageous to face and scare your problems away. Look them in the eye and say, “You have no power over me, be gone!”

3. Stop focusing on your problems. For example, if you’re having issues with family drama-rama, even after you’ve said what you had to say, redirect your focus to something and or someone else. Read a book, volunteer, go to the movies, attend a festival, spend the day at the park, etc. Do something other than focus on your problem.

4. Let go and let God. You’ve probably heard this saying before but it begs repeating. After you’ve faced your problem, let it go. As Esther Hicks/Abraham said during a Teaching with Abraham, “If you want to let go of something, let it die of its own admission.” Let it go!

5. Don’t get caught up in unnecessary drama. This one is easier said than done for some to do. However, everyone has a choice. You can only control your actions and reactions to the people and situations around you. Consider thinking before you speak; before you react to an email, a Facebook status update, a ‘tweet’ on Twitter, etc. You can control your emotions and reactions. You don’t have to get ‘sucked into’ family, friends, and societal drama-rama. Think about it.


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Woman Discovers Seven Steps to Abundance … Shares with Others

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Question: How do you truly receive abundance? Is there a ‘magical’ formula? What about the ‘paradigm’ of constantly thinking about abundance which can push it away? Confused!

Answer: Become clear about what you truly want, let go, and allow abundance (in all forms) to come into your life.

Many people have discovered the law of attraction. They’ve watched The Secret and believe what they ‘think’ about will come true. That’s part of the formula. You must ‘feel’ and believe you’ll receive your desires. However, your soul may have a totally different path to follow from what you desire. It’s a conundrum and paradigm!

7 Steps to Abundance

1. You’re already producing results. However, they may not be the results you want. Take a moment to look at what is in your life. Where are you? Past? Present? Future? Write everything down that’s happening in your life. For example, write down how much money you earn per month, how much you spend on bills each month, how much you spend on food, etc. Remember, you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.

2. How do you speak? Do you speak words of favor or defeat? Do you generalize? For example, do you say, “I have to work hard for money.” Who said this to you? How old were you? Ask yourself, “How true is this now?” Generalizations won’t attract abundance to you — they’ll keep it from you.  Write down all of your generalizations and ask, “Are these true?” The answer will surprise you.

Tip: Say an affirmation such as “Prosperity flows easily to me.” You must believe it!

3. Define your outcome. What exactly do you want? Do you even know? Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. Ask the following the questions:

  • What do I want?
  • Why do I want this and that?
  • How will this change my life?
  • How will this affect others in my life?
  • Are you really ready for this to occur?

Sometimes you want to want things; you may not be ready for your desires. You’re not aware of the reality of it. For example, most lottery winners weren’t prepared emotionally and mentally for their fortune. They couldn’t handle the attention or relatives and friends who knocked on their door for assistance. The money is usually gone within one year.

4. Be precise in your thoughts — align your thoughts and language.

5. Ask for support from people who are successful in an area you’d like to be successful in. For example, if you’d like a relationship, speak to someone who has a successful relationship. Don’t ask someone who’s been divorced five times; although, you could probably learn what ‘not to do’ in a relationship. You can learn about self-sabotaging behaviors and patterns.

Tip: Whatever it is you desire, seek out those who are successful. Also, when someone helps you, give something in return as a way to say “thank you.”

6. Do not give up if you truly feel deeply (you have an inner knowing) you’re on the right path with your desires. You probably haven’t tried everything to reach your desires. Be clear about you want; however, make sure it’s in alignment with your soul. Your desire could be at odds with your ‘soul’s’ desires. Become quiet and still to find out.

7. After you’ve become clear about your desires, let it go. Give it over to God, Source Energy, Universal Intelligence, etc. Always say, “This or something better.” Please don’t obsess about it. That which is yours can’t and won’t be taken away from you.


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How to Make a God, Miracle or Wealth Box

Question: What is a God Box? How do they work? Where can you buy one? How do you make one? I have a lot of stuff I’d like to create and release.

Answer: A ‘God Box’ is a tool to help you turn over your troubles and cares to God, Creator, Universal Source, Universal Intelligence, etc. A ‘miracle or wealth Box’ is something you can use to place your dreams in and release them to the Creator, instead of obsessing about them. It’s necessary to take action to make your dreams come true. However, it’s best to take inspired action.

Author, radio personality, and speaker Denise Linn, outlined the steps for creating a God, miracle, or wealth box on her July 12, 2011 Soul Coaching program which can be found on HayHouse Radio. Of course, you can always purchase a ‘pre-made’ box, but you may consider making your own. It doesn’t have to be fancy. You can use a shoe box, purchase a special box from an arts and craft store, use a gift box, or anything else you’d like to use. Below are the steps to making your very own God, miracle, or wealth box.

How to Make a God, Miracle or Wealth Box

1. Select the style of box that resonates with you. Use a Sharpie and write the following on the box:

  • Thank You! Write these words on all four sides of the box.
  • “Whatever is in this box is so.” Write this underneath the box lid or top.

2. Place crystals in or around your box. Green stones are the best to use because they symbolize growth, prosperity, and renewal; however, you could also use other stones that promote prosperity. Purchase stones such as Aventurine, green mica, green jade, green tourmaline, malachite, Herkimer diamonds, seashells, smoky quartz, rainbow stones, tiger’s eye, amber, or citrine.

Remember to cleanse your stones. Hold them to your heart and third eye (located between your eyes). Dedicate the stones to your God, miracle, or wealth box; prosperity and wealth.

3. Place flower and oil essences in or around your box. Rosemary, lavender,  frankincense, and orange oil promote prosperity.

On her July 12, 2011 show, Denise Linn provided listeners with the following instructions after the completion of a God, miracle, or wealth box:

“I open my heart to loving abundance.” Say this three times while stretching out your hands like you’re going to dive; open your arms and say, “I give thanks to the Creator for all that’s received.” Lift your arms higher and higher and say, “In accordance with the highest good.” Your arms and head will be pointed upwards. Be open to what’s in store for you. Remember to give thanks.

You don’t have to carry your God, miracle, or wealth box with you. Put it in a special place in your home. You may want to create an altar with pictures, statues, crystals, candles, incense, flowers, plants, etc. and place your box on it. It will be your own sacred place where you give thanks. Peace!

*The photo is an example of God Box which can be purchased. I bought this box from a holistic store in Chandler, Arizona.


How to Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires


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Question: How do you know if you’ve come in contact with energy vampires? One moment I’m happy, the next I feel depressed and drained. I’ve noticed I feel this way after I’ve been around people I do and don’t know.

Answer: Energy or psychic vampires are people and situations that drain and suck the life force aka your energy from your body, mind, and soul. They can be family members, friends, spouses, life partners, co-workers, bosses, neighbors, PTA members, and anyone else who’s in your life. They drain you emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially. To preserve your health and wellness, you may have to end relationships with energy vampires.

Everyone has fallen prey to energy vampires, especially if you’re empathetic. You can’t help but feel compassion and empathy for people. Unfortunately, you probably absorb their energy or experience some sort of psychic attack. It’s necessary for you to ‘shield‘ or protect yourself from such attacks.

How to Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires

1. Limit the amount of time you spend with energy vampires. Surround yourself with open-minded, loving, and positive people. If you work with energy vampires, mentally say the following, “I’m rubber, your glue. Your stinky energy bounces off of me and back to you. I release and send you on your way.” Or, you could mentally write the name of the person on an envelope along with the words, “Return to sender with love,” and mentally drop it into a mailbox and send their energy back to them.

2. Say “No” and mean it. Give yourself permission to say “No” whenever you’re asked to do something or give something to someone. Energy vampires who try to get you to give them your time, money, advice, sympathy, etc. will receive the message loud and clear when you say “No” to them.

3. Use candles and crystals. Purchase a blue or white candle. After coming in contact with an energy vampire, light the candle and meditate on cutting your chords and removing toxins. Wearing or placing crystals such as hematite, snowflake obsidian, or black tourmaline in and around your home will protect your energy field and home from negativity and energy vampires. Note: wear a crystal over your heart.

4. Set strong boundaries. Set clear, firm boundaries with people. When an energy vampire begins to ‘dump’ their problems or life story on you, gently stop them. Say, “I understand you’re having your own Private Idaho, but I won’t participate in the drama.” You can also tell them you have to go or get back to work. You can have compassion and empathy for their situation without allowing them to ‘hook’ into your positive energy.

5. Take a sea salt bath or wash yourself with sea salt soap. Cleansing your body after an encounter with an energy vampire is important. Mentally see yourself clearing away the toxic energy and cutting your chords.

I’m rubber, your glue. Your stinky energy bounces off of me and back to you. I release and send you on your way! ~ R.A. Sebek

6. Protect your solar plexus chakra. Cross or fold your arms or place your purse (or another object) in front of your stomach whenever you speak with energy or potential energy vampires.

7. Call on Archangel Michael. Ask Archangel Michael to vacuum out any toxins and cut your chords to energy vampires. Ask him to place a blue, purple, or white light around you to serve as a barrier to any negative energy you encounter. This will transmute ‘icky’ energy in your aura field into positive energy.

8. Shields. You can mentally put a variety of shields around you such as mirrors facing outward; blue, purple, and or white light; visualize your spirit or power animal at your side, or ask your angels and or Archangel Michael to be by your side.

9. Perform Reiki on you or make an appointment with a practitioner. Reiki is a good way to clear psychic attacks. You’ll feel much better after receiving a Reiki treatment.

10. Laugh! A ‘wicked’ sense of humor is a great way to ward off energy vampires. Laughter is the best medicine!

The next time you experience a psychic attack or encounter an energy vampire, you’ll be prepared to handle it. If you ever feel depressed, angry, frustrated, aggravated, spiteful, revengeful, etc.; ask yourself “why” you’re feeling those types of feelings. Are they really yours or do they belong to someone else? What inside of you is benefiting from those feelings? Sometimes, you need to learn a lesson such as setting stronger boundaries or saying “No.” An encounter with a psychic vampire will teach you to do this. It’s a tough but an effective way to learn.

Realize that most psychic vampires experienced a trauma in their life; some have major stress. They aren’t aware of how they ‘suck’ the energy from people. Bless and send them on their way. As soon as you instinctively know you’re in the presence of an energy vampire, have compassion for them and keep conversations short or drop them altogether. Protect yourself and be grateful you have an awareness of energy vampires on how to protect yourself from them.

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Jerry Maguire: No One Can Complete You, Except You

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Jerry Maguire is a hit movie from 1996 starring Tom Cruise (Jerry Maguire) and an up-and-coming Renée Zellweger (Dorothy). The following lines resonated with people (mostly women) around the world:

Jerry Maguire: I love you. You… you complete me. And I just…
Dorothy: Shut up, just shut up. You had me at “hello.”

Unfortunately, no one told Jerry Maguire that no one could complete him. It’s his job to complete himself. A woman, car, salary, vacation, boat, home, etc. won’t complete him until he aligns with his source or higher self. If he doesn’t, he’ll go through life expecting people, situations, and material objects to fill the void within him. It’s a vicious cycle until it’s permanently broken.

Do you look to people and situations to complete you? What do you get out of it? Continuing to look outside of yourself for something you can only give to you will disappoint you. Your partner or spouse can only match your frequency or vibration. If you’re looking for them to give you love and respect, you could be waiting for a long time. Have you ever thought about why relationships don’t work out? Often, we put pressure on the other person to fill a void within us, but we’re the only ones who can fill it. Until you realize this, you’ll continue to attract self-sabotaging relationships into your life. Only you have the power to change this.

Expecting someone else to complete you is asking too much of them. They’ll become exhausted from having to please you by watching what they say and do. Of course, the same goes for you. If you constantly try to make the people around you happy, they’ll become upset with you when they’re angry. Their anger has nothing to do with you — it’s all about them. It has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Being consistently happy is the way to complete you. Love and accept yourself no matter what. If you’re out of alignment, you probably have been prone to stinking thinking. If you shift your thoughts and recognize what works in your life, you’ll experience a shift. Keeping an appreciation or gratitude journal can help you realize how much you have in your life. All you have to complete you is within you not outside of you.


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How do You Really Forgive

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I, like most people, want to forgive myself and others for past transgressions. But, I’ve been asking the following question, “How do you know when you really forgive?” I provided steps (see below) which are meant to be guidelines on forgiveness. Incorporate your own ideas and or other resources. You can forgive, but you need to make a conscious decision to do so. This isn’t easy if you’ve suffered from abuse and neglect. Remember, parents do the best they can and usually parent based on how they were raised. If no one questioned their parenting methods or showed them alternative methods, they more than likely repeated the patterns of their parents. Unfortunately, ‘Parenting 101′ is not taught in our school systems.

How do you truly forgive?

1. Feel all of your emotions. Many spiritual experts or gurus tell you not to feel your emotions because the energy will attract more negativity to your life. The opposite is true. If you don’t feel all of your emotions, i.e., anger, hate, rage, sadness, despair, hopelessness, frustration, aggravation, irritation, etc. Hit a pillow, journal, work out, run, go for a walk, or do whatever will help you to process and feel your emotions. Carrying emotions that burden or weigh you down aren’t healthy. They can wreak havoc on your body, mind, and soul.

2. Write the person a letter. Another technique is to write a letter to the person who hurt or wronged you but don’t mail it. Tell this person how you feel and how they hurt you. Don’t hold back; allow everything to pour out of you and into the letter. Once you’ve finished read your letter and burn it, tear it up, freeze it, or put it in a “God” box and turn it over to a higher power.

3. Say an affirmation. An example of an affirmation is, “The time has come, the time has come to let go of the past, the time has come to forgive and move forward.” Another example is, “I forgive my family and embrace them with love and compassion.” Or you can say, “I easily forgive others and I AM easily forgiven.” You can make up your own affirmation or use the examples above.

4. Be willing to forgive. You must be willing to forgive. If you’re not, you won’t truly forgive people and situations. Be honest with yourself. If you’re not willing to forgive, it’s okay. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

5. Step back and gain perspective. Why did someone hurt you? They probably weren’t aware they were hurting you. They could have been too involved and wrapped up within their own pain. Most people aren’t conscious of their actions and how they affect others. Be grateful if you’re aware how your actions may affect others. It will make you more compassionate and understanding.

6. If you don’t forgive, the person or situation will have control over you. Who wants this? When you forgive a person or situation, your power returns to you. Take your power back and cut the ties that bind you. Say an affirmation or prayer such as, “I now release and cut any negative chords attached to me from (fill in the blank).” If you don’t forgive, you’ll be forever tied to the person or situation that caused you pain. What’s healthy about that?

How do you know when you really forgive?

1. When you hear the person’s name and it doesn’t irritate you. If you hear the person’s name that hurt you and you remain calm and peaceful then you know you forgave them. If you think about them without getting upset, you know you truly forgave them.

2. When you stop dwelling on what someone has done to you. When you stop thinking about what a person did to you or how a situation caused you pain, you know you truly forgave the person or situation.

3. You feel at peace. You no longer have anger, hate, guilt, shame, or resentment around a person or situation.

4. When you forgive yourself. If you can look in the mirror and say “I love you” without flinching or doubting yourself, you know you’ve experienced forgiveness.

5. When you can be around those who’ve hurt you without flinching or harboring anger towards them. Thanks to social media, you can connect with family and friends, the same people who may have hurt you. If you can look at their pictures and communicate with them without thinking about how they caused you pain and ways to harm them, you definitely forgave them!

If you don’t forgive, you’ll lash out at people who haven’t wronged you because you’re still filled with anger and hate. Disease will settle into your body and will keep you trapped. You’ll attract more negativity into your life which can eat you alive. Forgiveness begins with you. Shift your feelings and thoughts and you’ll change your life. Once you forgive people, you don’t have to hang out with them. Forgiving others means lifting you and your soul to a higher place. You’ll break the chains that have kept you bound and move forward in life. If you don’t forgive, you’ll suffer in silence and that’s no way to live. Forgive today and tomorrow watch as the sun rise above your head.


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