Solo Travel Helped Me Understand Why People Become Expats

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I have confession to make. Here it goes. I’m in love The UK and traveled there several times. However, I’ve always traveled with a friend or family member. In August 2007, as a graduation (graduated with a Master of Science, Management degree) and birthday gift, I solo traveled to Edinburgh, Scotland to experience the Edinburgh International Fringe Festival. Was I nervous? Yes, I was. And it surprised me. Why? Because it wasn’t my first trip to Scotland, but it was my first time traveling alone.

Rather than book a hotel room, I chose to stay in a hostel. I was supposed to stay in a 6 bed mixed dorm room. However, due to an influx of guests, I was bumped to an 8 bed mixed dorm room.

Before I left for my trip, some of my co-workers teased me about staying in a hostel because of a horror film about a group of people who were terrorized while staying in a hostel.

I also don’t think they believed me when I told them I would travel by myself. Their doubts gave me more courage to travel alone.

Getting to Edinburgh via Heathrow was a trip in and of itself. Why? Because I missed my flight to Edinburgh and had to get another ticket. The ticket agent at Heathrow wasn’t too thrilled he had to issue me another airline ticket. Oh well…

I was grateful to meet people who helped me navigate the ginormous airport.

Once I arrived in Edinburgh I was taken aback by the number of people who attend the Edinburgh International Fringe Festival. Furthermore, I was surprised at the number of expats living in Edinburgh. Some of the people who worked at the hostel were from the U.S., Canada, and other countries. [Read more…]

Dear Rocky River Ohio Bridal Shop: Your Employees Don’t Look like Heidi Klum

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“You need to lose weight and not gain any weight to fit into your bridesmaid dress.”

Those were the words spoken to my 21 year old niece on December 18, 2014 when she went for her first bridesmaid dress fitting at a Rocky River, Ohio bridal shop.

When my niece told me this I saw red.

“Who the hell is this woman?” I asked.

“Does she look like super model Heidi Klum?” I asked. Not that this matters.

With tears in her eyes, my niece said, “No.”

My cried all the way home because of the insensitive employee at the bridal shop in Rocky River, Ohio.

The bridal shop owner and employee are lucky that my niece didn’t get into a car accident.

After all, it’s difficult to drive and see the road when you’re balling your eyes out.

I looked up bridal shop online went to their Facebook; I clicked on their photos.

Guest what?

The women who work there don’t look like Super Models!

They look like the average size 12-16 American woman.

I can’t imagine Lori, owner of Bridals by Lori or Randy from Kleinfeld in New York, (see the hit TV shows on TLC) telling a woman that she needs to lose weight and that she better not gain weight to fit into a wedding gown or bridesmaid dress.

People wonder why teen girls, young women, and women in general, develop eating disorders. It’s because of clueless people like the woman who works at bridal shop in Rocky River, Ohio.

If women wonder why they can’t get along or develop friendships with other women, perhaps they should listen to the words they speak.

If women wonder why they can’t sell wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses, they should listen to the words coming out of their mouth. [Read more…]

Tap Your Way to Financial Abundance and Wealth

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Have you heard of EFT (emotional freedom technique) or tapping?

It not, you could be missing out on the opportunity to release your negative beliefs about financial abundance and wealth.

If you’re like most people, you learned your money beliefs from your parents.

If your parents were raised with a ‘lack’ mentality, chances are they passed this ‘stinking thinking’ onto you. If you have kids, you may have passed it onto your kids.

The cycle continues until someone breaks it. And that someone can be YOU!

Forgive your parents because they had no idea that their beliefs, thoughts, and words created their reality.

Right now, you can use tapping to shift your beliefs and thoughts around abundance, money, and wealth. Keep reading if you’re ready to open your arms and receive all the abundance that’s been waiting for you. [Read more…]

Shake Things Off: 10 Tips to Bouncing Back When Life Gets You Down

It’s a fact that all of us have suffered major setbacks. Perhaps you started a business that failed. Maybe your best friend told you she no longer wants to be your friend. Perhaps your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse cheated on you. Maybe you failed a test. Whatever the case maybe, it’s time to shake things off and bounce back when life gets you down!

People who dwell on their problems create more of the same. Don’t believe me. Look at your life. Is it filled with joy and laughter? Or is it filled with drama-rama? Do you have supportive people in your life? Or do you have energy vampires who suck the living daylights out of you?

Go ahead and assess your life up until this point. I’ll wait.

If you don’t like what you’ve discovered, you’re not alone. I assess my life, maybe too much, and sometimes want to crawl into a hole after I discover that I may have created unnecessary pain and suffering. I look at situations and people and think How did I attract this or that? What was I thinking? Believe me; your thoughts are more powerful than you think. You are more power than you think.

But never fear and I mean this. You can bounce back when life gets you down. It’s easier than you think. [Read more…]

10 Dangerous Money Beliefs: How to Master Your Mind for Abundance

Some people believe that money changes everything about you and your life but not in a good way. This is why their financial future may be unstable.

For example, you may believe that money makes you arrogant and rude. However, if you had more money, you could make a difference in lives of thousands, perhaps even millions of people. You could begin with your family and friends.

Money is nothing but energy and paper and coins.

But, you may give money absolute power over you.

Instead of being a money master, you’re a money servant. You let it control your emotions, thoughts and beliefs. You let it stress you out whenever your bills are due. This isn’t healthy.

Instead of worrying about money, which only gives you more issues to worry about, make peace with money.

Become its friend and master. How? By questioning and tossing out your beliefs about money. If you don’t, they’ll continue to destroy you in ways that you could only imagine. [Read more…]

7 Warning Signs You’re about to Marry the Wrong Man

Are you engaged to be married?

You may think that you’ve found Mr. Right, but think again.

Why?

Because love can be blind, and you ignore red flags that you’re about to marry the wrong man.

Let’s face it; when you fall in love, you’re on cloud nine and thrilled that you’ve found a partner whom you can spend the holidays such as Valentine’s Day with, someone to snuggle up to on a cold night.

But, do you know your man like you think you do? How well do you know his family?

In the beginning, your relationship may be sugar and spice and everything nice, but as you get to know each other, you may see your significant other in a different light.

Before you walk down the aisle and say “I Do,” check out the warning signs that you’re about to marry the wrong man. Save yourself from heartache now rather than later.

7 Warning Signs You’re about to Marry the Wrong Man

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1. He’s a mama’s boy.

You may think it’s admirable that your fiancé’s mother cooks and cleans for him, but what do you think will happen when you’re married? That’s right. You get to pick up where his mom left off. Do you want to be a wife to your husband or a mother? After all, you’ll most likely work 40 or more hours per week, like your husband. Shouldn’t there be equal household responsibilities?

2. He has control issues.

When you want to get your haircut, does your guy give you hard time? What about when you want to spend time with your friends? Does he insist on going with you? These are a couple of signs that your guy has control issues. Think twice before you get married, because control can turn into physical, mental and emotional abuse.

3. He will only hang out with his family and friends.

Ever notice how you spend most of your time with your fiancé’s family and friends? When this happens, your family and friends will feel neglected. Have a chat with your man and make it clear that there has to be a balance between hanging out with both sides of the family and both sets of friends. If he disagrees, you may want to rethink his proposal.

4. He doesn’t say, “I love you.”

Some guys have a difficult time saying, “I love you.” But you’d like to hear him say those words, right? Have a heart-to-heart with your guy and get to the root of why he can’t express his feelings. Perhaps he was taught that a man is not supposed to show his feelings. If this is the case, reassure him that it’s OK for him to be vulnerable. If it’s not the case, you’ll have to think about whether or not you can live without hearing your husband say, “I love you.”

5. He puts you down in public and private.

Do you want to marry someone who treats your like dirt and doesn’t respect you? When you’re married, do you think your husband will stop insulting you? Maybe, if he seeks counseling. Then again, maybe his family has a pathology or history of abuse. Perhaps he saw his mother treated horribly by his father. Think about the kind of marriage you’ll have. Think about the kind of marriage you deserve and want.

6. Your future mother-in-law runs his life.

Do you notice how your man has to call his mother when he gets home from work or a night out with you? Does he discuss his finances with his mother and allow her to make decisions about his financial future? If you think this will stop when you’re married, you could be in for a rude awakening. How much do you want your mother-in-law involved in your married life?

7. His finances are out-of-control.

Have you discussed finances? For example, does your guy have credit card debt that he’s not paying off? Does he have a checking and/or savings account? How about an investment portfolio? Before you commit to marriage, discuss finances. You want to create a solid financial future together as husband and wife. Think long and hard about entering into a marriage that’s riddle with financial catastrophe. You don’t want to ruin your credit, do you?

So, there you have it.

The seven warning signs you’re about to marry the wrong man.

When you notice red flags about the man you’re about to marry, think about if you want to get married. Have a conversation with your fiancé because it could save you time, money and possibly your life. Don’t feel bad if you want to call off your wedding. You won’t be the first woman to give an engagement ring back. It’s better to say, “I Don’t,” rather than to say “I Do” to a lifetime of misery.

How I Met Your Mother Teaches You To Find Your Life Purpose

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How I Met Your Mother is one of my favorite TV series; I can’t wait for the finale to see how it all ends. Who are we kidding? The show will live on in re-runs and on Netflix!

Anyway…

On January 27, 2014, during the 200th episode of How I Met Your Mother, fans were treated to an episode that was all about The Mother.

Spoiler alert…

Viewers found out The Mother’s boyfriend died and she decides that she’ll never find another love like the one she had.

But…

The Mother meets her former music teacher and they go back to her apartment. He thinks he’s getting lucky and takes off his clothes while she gets her cello. She walks into the living area and is freaked out and thinks he’s turning into a creep. The music teacher grabs The Mother’s cello and hides his manhood.

The Mother tells her former music teacher that she feels lost and stuck. Lucky for her, he felt the same way she did. He tells her that he discovered what he truly wanted to do, teach music, while hitting rock bottom and living in his parents basement.

Check out the dialogue below between The Mother and her former music teacher.

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Music Teacher

What is it that you want to do with your life?

The Mother

I want to end poverty.

Music Teacher

Great. Then every decision you make from here on out should be in service of that.

See.

It’s that easy to discover your life purpose. Stop over thinking what you should or shouldn’t do with your life.

Simply ask yourself, “What is it that I want to do with my life?”

What to do When You Find Your Life Purpose?

Once you discover your life purpose or reconnect with your dreams, don’t share what you want to do with people who’ll put you and your life purpose down. Guard it with our life. If you feel the need to share your life purpose, only share it with those who support you, no matter what.

If you need to take classes, sign up for them. If you need to move, then move. If you need to release people from your life who no longer resonate with you and your life’s path, gently say goodbye.

Embrace your life purpose with every ounce of your being.

Visualize yourself following your path and doing well.

If fear creeps into your mind, acknowledge it (don’t stuff it down). Remember the quote, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Know that all is well and that you deserve to be happy and do what you want to do that brings you and others joy.

Over to you. Have you found your life purpose? If so, how did you discover it? Let me know in the comment below.

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10 Life Hack Commandments to Use Every Day

Happy New Year!

It’s 2014 and everyone gets a “do over.”

You get to wipe the slate clean, start over and live a better life.

Of course, you can create and set goals. For example, my goal is to post more frequently on MisticCafe. I kind of took a break because I’ve been developing my writer’ website and writing projects. However, I want to get back to writing consistently for MisticCafe.

While I was meditating, I had the idea of “Life Hack Commandments” pop into my head. I told myself to remember the idea so I could write it down later.

So…

Without further ado, here are 10 life hack commandments you can use every day. I created an infographic for you to download.

Let’s make 2014 a fantastic year. Just take one day at a time and enjoy the present moment.

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Over to you. What other Life Hack Commandments would you add to the list? Let me know in the comments below.

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How to Get Rid of Your Fears and Doubts Once and For All

Fears and doubts have a tendency to creep inside your mind and fester and grow.

The good news is that you have the power to shrink your fears and doubts with the wave of a magical wand, real or imagined.

Keep reading.

Below is my April 13, 2013 horoscope from DailyHoroscope:

A great way to help a child deal with persistent fears or nightmares about monsters is to give them a technique for dealing with the problem. Tell the child to look the monster directly in the eye, and use an imaginary wand to shrink it down until it’s as small as an ant. In a child’s mind, this is possible. And it’s possible for you too, Leo. You’re dealing with a fear now – something that affects your quality of life. Look at that fear, point your imaginary magic wand in its direction, and banish it from your life. It may take a few tries, but if you believe in your power, you can free yourself of a fear. [Read more…]

7 Ways The Bible Influences You Today

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Power, lust, greed, sex, gluttony, laziness, and war.

Forget about reading Fifty Shades of Grey just read The Bible or watch it on The History Channel!

Roma Downey (Touched by an Angel) and reality show mogul Mark Burnett (Survivor, The Amazing Race) produce The Bible, and have brought viewers what is being called, “The Bible for today’s generation.” They’re not kidding.

Today, children are growing up with more wars than their parents and grandparents. Sex and violence are prevalent in TV shows, video games, and movies. The internet can be a dangerous place kids because you don’t really know who’s lurking on websites and from where. And most kids are becoming desensitized to all of this.

Can we trace power, lust, greed, sex, gluttony, laziness, and war back to The Bible? Sure we can. Here’s how The Bible influences you without you knowing it. [Read more…]