Top 10 Lessons from Those without Common Sense

Guest post from Amandah Blackwell.

I’m fascinated by people. I love to people watch and observe their behaviors and actions of those around me. Sometimes, I can’t believe what people do and say. I mean … Don’t people think? I guess not. Here is my Top 10 Lessons from Those without Common Sense.

Top 10 Lessons from Those without Common Sense

1. A woman calls an animal sister and says, “Hi! I’m Babette Regis, and my sister Bailey dropped off Gigi, a dachshund, and I’d I like to adopt her.”

Mistake #1: Posing as another person is illegal and known as fraud.

Mistake #2: Posing as another person is illegal and known as identity theft.

Effect #1: The manager of animal shelter calls Bailey (Gigi’s owner) and says, “Your sister Babette called to inquire about adopting Gigi.” Bailey says, “My sister is sitting next to me; it wasn’t her. It was my husband’s cousin’s meddling wife. Please don’t allow Gigi to be adopted by Babette. Please give her to a good loving home.” The manager says, “I had a bad feeling about Babette. I listened to my intuition and called you. Don’t worry; we have four families who are interested in adopting Gigi. They’re a better fit for Gigi.”

Effect #2: Babette could be placed on the “Do Not Adopt to These People” animal list because she lied about who she was. Also, Babette could be charged with fraud and identity theft for impersonating Bailey’s sister if she files charges against her (that would be a lot of work). FYI: When Babette’s mother-in-law finds out what she did, she’ll rip her ‘a new one’ because she’ll do anything to protect her son, Babette’s husband.

Lesson #1: “Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive?” ~ Sir Walter Scott

Lesson #2: Babette obviously isn’t aware of the law of cause and effect. For every action there is a reaction; for every cause there is an effect.

2. “You have no right to your thoughts and beliefs.”

FYI: Actually, you do have the right to your thoughts and beliefs. It would behoove you to examine your thoughts and beliefs and ask, “Where did these come from? Are these true for me?”

3. “Drank tequila shots — had two of them. Lol! Post from an 18-year-old college student on Facebook.

Mistake #1: Colleges and universities take underage drink seriously and peruse social media websites. They review profiles which are now used to determine if you’ll be accepted or not. This is how they ‘weed’ out incoming students because they want the best of the best. FYI: In 2011, you can be kicked out and or face a stiffer penalty for underage drinking.

Lesson: Stop posting your entire life on Facebook! Learn the art of discretion; otherwise, it could cost you more than you think it will.

4. “There’s no hope.” 

FYI: There’s always hope.

5. “It’s too late.”

FYI: It’s never too late.

6. “I didn’t do anything. It’s not my fault this happened to me.”

FYI: It is your fault — review your thoughts and beliefs. What do you tell yourself every day? How is or has your mind been shaped by your environment or the media? Nothing happens to you — you create your own reality.

7. “I’m not lucky.”

FYI: You create your own luck.

8. “Life is too hard.”

FYI: Life is what you make of it. Empty your head of self-sabotaging thoughts and may be life won’t be so hard.

9. “Life isn’t fair.”

FYI: Life is what you make of it. There is no such thing as life being fair or unfair. It’s up to you to take responsibility for your life. No one else can do it for you.

10. “I don’t know what happened to my money.”

FYI: If you spend more than what’s coming in every week or month, you won’t be able to pay your bills. Common sense says, “Create a budget. List your monthly income and expenses. You need to bring in enough or more money than what you spend.” Money is nothing but paper and coins. Cultivate a prosperity mindset and you’ll always have money flowing to you.

Yours,
Amandah T. Blackwell

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How to Focus on What You Want

Let me ask you something: How well do you focus on what you want? If you’re like me, you watched The Secret and read the book but haven’t manifested the life of your dreams. If you’re like me, you probably keep asking, “What am I doing wrong? Why isn’t the law of attraction working? How can I make it work for me?” I had a ‘light bulb’ moment (Aha moments are so 2000s), and came across the The Secret of Doing Without Doing by Dr. Robert Anthony.

How to focus on what you want

1. Think about what you want. Do you really and truly know what you want? You may think you know what you want, but you may actually not know what you want. Knowing what you want for your life is imperative. Write down everything you’d like from having peace of mind to a new home. Get clear about what you want.

2. Tune-out the negative hype. I’m reading *Outwitting the Devil, which is annotated by Sharon Lechter. You may be surprised how easy it is to ‘hypnotize’ people with hype. Look at the media. If you constantly tune-in to the news or read the newspapers, you’re programming your subconscious for negativity.

*Get the book from your library and read it. You’ll be amazed at what you read. The first two chapters are slow going; however, Chapter 3 A Strange Interview with the Devil will knock your socks off!

3. Stop listening to others. You don’t have to focus on what you family and close friends think and say. If the people closest to you constantly whine and complain, it may be time to surround you with people who are like-minded.

4. Learn to think for yourself. If you read Outwitting the Devil, you’ll learn how parents, teachers, religious leaders, bosses, co-workers, friends, etc. can easily influence your thoughts. I’ll use myself as an example. I was a rebellious child and teen. However, it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized I was a ‘closet’ people pleaser. I did everything my mother and father told me to do, even though it never felt right. I allowed my father to control and manipulate me for a long time. It wasn’t until he got sick that the ‘wheels’ in my head began to turn. I realized I ‘wasted’ my entire life pleasing others instead of pleasing myself. This was a bitter pill to swallow. The irony is my father would say to me, “Did you think? Learn to think for yourself.” Talk about a contradiction!

I’ve been struggling lately with doing things that feel right for me. I just realized that I often put others needs before mine. Instead of saying, “How does this honor me?” I say, “What will so and so think? What will they feel?” I’m still not honoring me and my feelings. I think what happened was, I got tangled up in ‘spirituality now’ and forgot about me along the way. I now know I need to take my own advice and take my power back!

It’s never too late to break the cycle of people pleasing. Learn to set strong boundaries with people, no matter who they are. Stop allowing people to control and manipulate you.

5. Don’t apologize for wanting a better life. If your family and friends are stuck in ‘poverty’ mode, there’s no law that says you must join them. Don’t apologize for wanting a better life. Who knows, maybe you’ll inspire those around you to ‘clean up’ their lives. You can be the catalyst for them.

“Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought”. ~ Napoleon Hill

7 Habits That Lower Your Self-Esteem

You have the power to increase your self-esteem — no one can do it for you. If you want to increase your self-esteem, change your daily habits. If you have a ‘monkey mind’ that constantly puts you down, dissolve it once and for all. Negative self talk lowers your self-esteem. Associating with people who constantly complain and whine about life drains your energy and lowers your self-esteem — limit the time you spend with them. To quote Best-Selling Author Sonia Choquette, “Misery loves company, but happiness stands alone.”

7 Habits That Lower Your Self Esteem

1. Negative self talk. Are you constantly criticizing yourself? Do you put yourself down? If you do, it’s no wonder you have low self-esteem. No one is perfect. Stop the negative self talk and you’ll increase your self-esteem. Say affirmations such as, “I am beautiful; I am loving and lovable; I matter; I love and accept myself; I love and approve of myself.” Get a hand mirror and say these affirmations every day. Look directly into your eyes and say the affirmations with great feeling. Also, compliment yourself. If you do something good, congratulate yourself. Say, “Great job on writing that article” or “Kudos to you for shoveling your neighbor’s driveway.”

Stop the negative self talk and compliment yourself to ‘shift’ your energy and increase your self-esteem.

2. Associating with negative people. Associating with negative people can suck the life out of you and lower your self-esteem. Why would you have high self-esteem if you hang around with people who complain and whine all of the time? Lower energies aren’t good for your mental, emotional, and physical health. The next time you’re with negative people, really listen to their words and feel their vibration. You may feel your jaw and stomach tighten. This will affect your self-esteem. You’ll feel depleted and won’t have a zest for life. Detach from these people and thank them for the lessons they’ve given you.

3. Associating with negative people. They reflect back to you what you’re creating in your life. Thank these people for the lessons they provided, bless and release them.

4. Seclusion. When was the last time you enjoyed a night out? If you’re anti-social, it can lower your self-esteem. Perhaps you believe you don’t deserve to have friends or fun. Where do these beliefs come from? Are they true? Being secluded is no way to live. Take baby steps to meet people. Attend a church service or volunteer for at your favorite charitable organization. It will increase your self-esteem.

5. Watching depressing movies and television shows. Mind what you watch. Believe it or not, you could be influenced by movies and television shows. If you constantly watch the news or shows that are violent or filled with grief, it could lower your self-esteem. It can become depressing to watch news shows that only report the bad in the world. What about the good? Believe it or not, there is good in the world.

Monitor how much news you watch. Instead of watching depressing movies or television shows, watch comedies. Laughter is the best medicine!

6. Looking at the glass as half empty. Look at the glass as half full. Life is filled with ups and downs. It’s a great way to see how you handle situations. If life wasn’t filled with challenges, how would you grow? You would stay stuck and wouldn’t move forward in life. That’s no way to live.

7. A poor attitude. A poor mindset produces a poor life. If you don’t believe this, look at the balance in your checking and savings account. Are they at the maximum of $250,000 FDIC insured? Or, are they $100, $20 or $5?

If the above habits resonate with you, make a decision to acquire new ones. It takes 30-days to change a habit. Are you ready for the challenge? Your life will change in ways you may not expect. Does this scare you? Change can be good but you won’t know unless you get rid of your old habits and replace them with new ones. What are you waiting for? You have the power to increase your self-esteem. There’s no better time than to start than the present!

Amandah T. Blackwell

It’s me who is my enemy
Me who beats me up
Me who makes the monsters
Me who strips my confidence
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~Paula Cole, “Me,” This Fire

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SyFy’s Alice is More Than an Adventure — It’s a Mindset

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I love the SyFy channel! I also love Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll; it’s one of my favorite children’s books. Needless to say, I was overjoyed in 2009 when the SyFy channel presented Alice, an original mini-series based on Alice in Wonderland and Through The Looking-Glass. I was extremely overjoyed when Alice came out on DVD. About a week ago, I was thinking about the mini-series and lo and behold it was on the SyFy channel. Talk about the law of attraction coming into play! Sadly, I missed the first two hours and caught the ending. I said to myself, I wonder, would the library have the DVD? Sure enough, I was able to request the DVD. I was thrilled! Here’s what I learned.

What I learned from watching SyFy’s Alice

1. The people brought to Wonderland Through the Looking-Glass where labeled oysters. Why? According to Hatter, “For the shiny little pearls they carry inside.” What are the pearls? The pearls are human emotions.

Takeaway: All of us are oysters — we’re precious. And, emotions are precious because they act as a guiding system for us. When you feel angry or revengeful, it’s an indication that something is off.

2. When Alice arrives in Wonderland, she meets Ratty and says, “I have some money.” Ratty grabs the money, crinkles and tastes it says “Blah!” Ratty takes Alice to see Hatter; she’s trying to find Jack Chase who’s really Jack Heart (spoiler alert). She says to Hatter, “I have some money.” Hatter replies, “Pieces of paper. Pointless.”

Takeaway: Money is nothing but paper and coins. That’s it! You can have all the money in the world, but go to a different world and it could be deemed useless. Cultivate a prosperity mindset, and you’ll attract abundance to you. It has nothing to do with pieces of paper. This was a HUGE revelation for me. I could see my PROSPERITY SWITCH turn-on in my brain.

“Instant gratification is a complex business.” ~ King of Hearts

“The Queen just wanted to feel the good, not the bad.” ~ Charlie, Knight.

3. Alice is taken to see Caterpillar (spoiler alert — he’s the head of the resistance) because she wants to get her father back (spoiler alert — he was taken to Wonderland). Caterpillar says to Alice, “The effects of your powerful emotions on our frail senses are devastating. For example, Patient 243 couldn’t get the precious high of ‘flying high’ out of her system, so we’re bringing her back down to Earth in a controlled environment. Patient 671 drank too much self-importance so we’re shrinking his considerable ego little by little back to its original size. The oysters, your people, are contaminating our world. They must go back dead or alive before it’s too late.”

“We’re all vulnerable mix the wrong feelings together with the right kind of bad, with the wrong kind of good and you end up with a total breakdown.” ~ Caterpillar

Takeaway: When you combine emotions such as hate, revenge, anger, lust, ecstasy, stubbornness and other emotions, you’ve mixed a deadly combination that can have major repercussions in your life. Again, your emotions are your guiding system. When they flare up, it’s an indication that something within you is off course or off balance. Slow down and meditate on what’s happening in your life. Being quiet is a great way to finding solutions to your problem.

I recommend you rent Alice — it’s a fast-paced, adventurous story that teaches you at the same time. Who says you can’t learn anything constructive from TV?

Rebecca

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How to Dissolve Mind Viruses

A few weeks ago, I signed up for the Cultivating a Prosperity Mindset teleseminar from T. Harv Eker and Randy Gage. Randy was a high school dropout and served jail time at the age of 16. He always heard, “How can someone so smart be so dumb?” Randy’s mind was programmed with this mind virus. While he was in jail, a teacher visited him and said, “You don’t belong here. You take a test and earn a score like a college level. You’re a bright guy — you have the potential to do great things.” Randy wanted to believe him and he did. That’s how he began to change his life. Now, Randy’s a successful businessman.

Randy says, “You need someone who believes in you and that gives you the confidence to believe in yourself. We’re programmed not to stand out. In Australia, it’s known as “the tall poppy syndrome,” the tallest flower is the one that gets cut. We’re told don’t stand out, fit in, keep your head down and don’t get noticed. We’re programmed with these memes.” ~ Randy Gage

It makes it really hard, super hard to succeed when you’re in a negative and or non-supportive environment. Jim Rohn used to say, “Your income will be the average income of the five people you spend the most time with.” That’s not very encouraging when you’re surrounded by Negative Nina’s or Nick’s 24/7.

“You need to work on the root; otherwise, the fruits will be the same.” T. Harv Eker

3 Guiltiest Parties 

  • All governments. They need you to be needy. This keeps their power base.
  • Datasphere. TV, newspapers, blimps, internet, movies, etc. Many technologies create many mind viruses which travel the world within an hour.
  • Organized religion. The true message is love. However, there are elements within religions that hi-jack this concept such as, “Money is bad; Rich people are evil; and It’s spiritual to be poor.”

*I would add a fourth guilty party which is family. This is my belief. Listen to what your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, grandparents and others say. Do they speak positive or negative words? Do they complain all of the time? Is the sky always falling? Is everything in their life hopeless? I can go on and on, but I think you get the point.

How to dissolve mind viruses

1. Limit the amount of time you spend with negative people. Or, learn to tune them out.

2. Accept responsibility for your life and decide to change it for the better.

3. Be willing to change your life; be willing to live a happier, more successful life. Stop worrying about what others will think. Who cares?

4. Create a positive consciousness before you leave the house. Read a book, listen to a meditation, do yoga, etc. to make sure you’re vibrating where you want to be.

“The secret to prosperity is to be able to be a critical thinker — examine your beliefs. Examine how you got them. Where did you get your ideas from? What makes sense for you? Are they supporting you to have a happier, more successful life? If your beliefs are true and serve you, they’ll withstand the skepticism and questioning. Most peoples’ core foundational beliefs were determined before you were 10-years-old; from parents, counselors, teachers, books, television, etc. You got your beliefs when you were five, six, seven-years-old. Now, you’re 35, 45 or 55 and wondering, “Why can’t I break through? Why am still struggling? Is it the economy? Is it my boss? Ninety-nine times out of 100 it’s self-sabotage because of your limiting beliefs.” ~ T. Harv Eker and Randy Gage.

You get what you expect. Do you expect to succeed or fail? Do expect that you can change your life? Do expect to have that deal go through? Do you expect trouble wherever you go? Do you expect your life will be hard? It will behoove you to examine your expectations.

“Environment is stronger than will power. For example, if you attend a Millionaire Mind Intensive, you’ll be surrounded by like-minded people. In three days, you’ll grow quickly and have such new insight about yourself and your life, about your own successes; that you can easily leave people behind. When that happens, they’re start negating you.” T. Harv Eker

Expect more because you’ll have a better chance of good things happening for you then if you expect less. It’s more supportive, and you’re happier by expecting more. You may not be wealthy tomorrow, but there’s a greater chance you’ll attract prosperity to you sooner rather than later. Stop expecting less! Change the way you think, change everything in your life.

Rebecca

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How to Dissolve Problems

I received HayHouse’s newsletter which included an excerpt from Louise L. Hay and Cheryl Richardson’s new book You Can Create an Exceptional Life. Here’s a snippet from the excerpt:

“When a problem has been solved, we need to remember that it’s gone,” Louise instructs. “It has passed. We don’t want to dip into the past to be miserable in the present moment. And we don’t want to become complainers. People who complain a lot are a pain in the ass for everyone around them. Not only that, but they are doing great damage to their own world. Before we verbalize a complaint, we tend to go over it in our mind—several times, dozens of times, several dozen times, dozens and dozens of times. Depending on what our habit is.”

My favorite line from the above excerpt is “People who complain a lot are a pain in the ass for everyone around them.” I chuckled when I read this. Louise/Cheryl wrote what I think but haven’t had the courage to say. I think about how I used to complain; how my former co-workers used to complain. It makes me cringe! I listen to the people around me (family) complain and think, “Thank God I woke up in 2007. Is that how I sounded? Yikes!” I do my best not to sweat the small stuff anymore. For some reason, I used to focus my attention on the littlest or stupidest things. Live and learn.

How to dissolve problems

1. Stop and listen to how much you complain and or criticize you and the people in your life.

2. Notice how many times the people in your life complain.

3. Acknowledge your problems and sit with them for a while. What’s the real story behind your problems? Are they self-inflicted?

4. Journal your problems and review them. What can you do to move past them? Are they worth giving attention to? What are you afraid of if you let your problems go?

5. Meditate on your problems and let them go. If you do this, you make room for change and abundance will flow to you.

Rebecca

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Can You Speak about Your Strengths?

I was listening to Part 3 of Caroline Myss’ Why People Don’t Heal and she said something that struck a chord with me. Caroline said, “As a species, we cannot admit our strengths. It’s an uncomfortable process. How often do you meet somebody and say, “How are you? And they say, strong, talented or happy. Nobody does that. It’s not a popular thing to do. Often, you use a wound to get to your strengths, especially your power.”  She’s right.

Most of us were taught that it’s wrong to speak about our strengths. We’re not taught to ‘toot our own horn’ because it could make someone else feel bad. This isn’t totally right. There’s nothing wrong with saying, “Yes, I am a fantastic web designer. I am a great writer.” Own your talents, be proud of them.

What are your strengths?

  • Writing
  • Speaking in front of audiences
  • Designer: fashion, graphic, interior or web
  • Analysis
  • Healing
  • Happy
  • Strong
  • Content
  • Singing
  • Dancing
  • Nature lover
  • Speak foreign languages
  • Know sign language
  • Can easily forgive and ask for forgiveness
  • Open minded
  • Good listener

Make a list of your strengths and read them out loud. Post them around your home, home office, bedroom, etc. Review your strengths and be proud of them because there’s nothing wrong with acknowledging your strengths. You can speak freely about your strengths. It’s up to you whether you do or not.

Rebecca

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What is Woundology?

Question: I just discovered Caroline Myss and she used the term ‘woundology‘ in her presentation “Why People Don’t Heal?” What does woundology mean? How can you permanently heal your wounds? I’d like to heal my wounds once and for all. I journal, meditate, listen to podcasts, burn incense and sage, etc. and nothing seems to work. Help!

Answer: Woundology means you use your wounds — you cling to your wounds. According to Caroline Myss, “Woundology is a very expensive habit to keep a wound alive. The energy comes out of your system, your cell system.” According to the Halexandria Foundation, “Woundology is also a form of scapegoatology which means outside events and others are blamed for what a wounded person experiences.” We have the power to heal from our wounds; however, to do so, means we must give up ‘being right’ for being happy.

When you carry your problems with you everywhere you go, you’re practicing the art of woundology. For example, gave you ever met someone who’s told you their life story in a matter of minutes? They were practicing woundology. However, the person believes they’re sharing their life’s story. They can’t see what they’re truly doing. Let’s face it; we’ve all done this at one point or have done this. I have and now realize the error of my way. Now, wonder I’ve been feeling stuck in a funk for the past year (or more).

FYI: Some experts believe woundology is a form of addiction. Instead of being addicted to drugs and alcohol, gambling, smoking, being right, attention, people pleasing, being a rescuer or victim, food, sex, the internet, movies and television, working out, shopping, relationships, traveling, etc. people are addicted to their pain.

Recognize and heal your wounds today by getting in touch with your emotions and exploring them. The next time you’re tempted to share your life’s story with someone, ask yourself a few questions such as:

  • Why am I doing this?
  • What do I get from this?
  • What’s motivating me to share my story?

Woundology is a way to control and manipulate the people around you. It’s a way to get their attention or for them to rescue you. The truth is you can only rescue and save you. If you wait for others to do it, you’ll be waiting for a long time. Life will pass you by and you’ll be left wondering, “Where did my life go?” However, you can heal your wounds today, and tomorrow life will be easier and happier.

Rebecca

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My Spirit Has Checked Out, But I’m Still Here

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I vowed to be transparent on MisticCafe.com, and I won’t go back on my word. So … Here it goes. I’ve been in a funk for the past few months. Actually, it feels more like I’ve been in a funk for one year and one month, maybe even longer. I’m doing my best to ‘practice what I preach’ about the Law of Attraction and other metaphysical topics but it hasn’t been working for me lately. If it is working, it’s not working the way I thought it would or fast enough. Who knows?

I have a laundry list of things I want to accomplish before October 1. One of the items on my list is to move back to Arizona. I talk about Arizona every day; I think my mom and sister are getting sick and tired of hearing about Arizona. I can’t help it — it’s where I want to be. I could kick myself for not letting go of outdated beliefs and thoughts placed upon me by my mom and dad, especially my dad’s side. What can I say? I always felt like the ‘odd’ woman out because I beat to my own drum — conformity isn’t a part of my vocabulary. I also don’t respond well when someone tells me I can’t or don’t have the right to voice my beliefs, thoughts and opinions on a topic. When this happens, I cut people out of my life (sometimes completely, sometimes for a short time) without looking back. Sometimes, it’s necessary to love people from a distance. In my case, I have to love them from over 2,000 miles.

I’m very restless; I’m a Life Path five which means I love travel. One of the reasons I love Arizona is the access to highways. I could easily blast to Sedona, the Grand Canyon, Prescott, Tucson or California. I also could have driven to Mexico. I always wanted to visit Chichen Itza. I’m fascinated by the Mayan culture and would love to climb a Mayan pyramid. But I also realized that I want to be ‘grounded’ in Arizona. I’d like to make it my home base. I guess it’s better late than never to figure this out.

Currently, I’m in the Midwest and it’s not working for me. I think I’m surrounded by too much air and water (elements). I’m a fire sign and this doesn’t work for me. I need to feel grounded and have support. The mountains of Arizona are great supporters. Plus, there are more artists and writers who live in Arizona compared to where I currently live. It’s nice to be surrounded by people who understand and ‘get’ you. They understand where you’re coming from.

I keep visualizing and affirming I live in Arizona, but I’m still in the Midwest as of August 31. The area I live in feels more like a retirement community. There’s not much to do; I’m bored to death. I can’t hike or easily get to a highway. Until I moved to Arizona, I never realized how far I had to drive to get to a highway entrance. This doesn’t work for me. I now appreciate Arizona more than I ever did.

I’m not sure how to get out my funk. I meditate, journal, go for a walk (it’s getting old walking around the neighborhood), listen to music, and workout, but nothing seems to help. I feel as if my spirit has left without me. Some spiritual folks would tell me, “Accept where you are.” But I don’t want to do this. If I do, it’s like admitting defeat. Who knows? Maybe I have this backwards. All I know is I need and want to get out of my funk. I’d love to volunteer but opportunities aren’t as plentiful as they are in Arizona. It has the lifestyle I desire. More importantly, it’s where I want to be.

As I was listening to Caroline Myss speak about “Why people don’t heal?” I questioned if the reason I feel stuck or that my spirit has checked out is due to forgiveness. I say “I forgive” (fill in the blank) day in and day out. I journal and meditate about it as well. Maybe I haven’t truly forgiven myself and others. Believe me; I would like my life to move faster. I would like more change, I’m ready for more change. I moved to Arizona and traveled to the UK by myself. I think I handle change. Who knows? Maybe I think too much!

Rebecca

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How to Connect with the Right People

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I was listening to Joel Osteen‘s podcast #470 Connecting with the Right People and it resonated with me. Here are a few excerpts from the podcast:

Everyone cannot go where God is taking you. Get away from the wrong people and surround yourself with people that appreciate your uniqueness. Connect with people who understand your destiny, not people who are always pushing you down, telling you what you can’t become. Life is too short to drag people along. If you will get the wrong people out of your life, God (or whatever term you use) will bring the right people into your life.

Some of you, the only thing that’s holding you back is your inner circle. The people that are closest to you, i.e., family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. are with you, but they’re not for you. You spend too much time trying to convince them to get on board; you spend too much time persuading them that you’re okay. You spend too much time trying to get people to understand your destiny.

How many of you can relate to the excerpts above? If you’re nodding your head or saying, “Yep, that’s me,” it’s time to change your inner circle. It may not be easy at first but once you get the wrong people out of your life, new people can finally come into your life and help you get to where you’re supposed to be. Stop spending time trying to convince people of your plans — you’re wasting precious time and oxygen. You don’t need their approval or permission. The only approval and permission you need is yours!

Some people you have to love from a distance. ~ Joel Osteen

True friends won’t question who you are — they’ll support you. True friends will connect you with people who can assist you. Surround yourself with people who believe in you; however, you must believe in you first. Your time is too valuable to spend it with people who don’t support your 100 percent. It’s about the quality of people not the quantity.

It’s scary to drift away from people, especially if you’ve known them for 10 or more years. However, if you have a ‘gut instinct’ that tells you it’s time to drift, go ahead and drift away. You need people who’ll have faith in you not people who’ll give you a laundry list of ‘why’ you can’t do something. Surround yourself with ‘wise people’ and seek council when you need it. It’s important to have people close to you who understand your destiny — who have faith. Weed out people who constantly pull you down. It’s alright to show them door!

Rebecca

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