Are You Helping or Interfering?

I learned another life lesson about caring for the people who mean most to me. I love my sister, niece and nephew dearly and am trying to help them break the cycle of dysfunction; however, after reading my September 29, 2011 horoscope (I know), I realized my caring has crossed the line into interference.

Here’s my September 29, 2011 horoscope from 12House:

Sometimes caring too much can be taken the wrong way and people start to interpret your helpfulness as interference. While it’s true you care for your family and friends and are concerned about their welfare you don’t want them to think you’re being intrusive. As much as you’d like others to come to you should they need help, you don’t want to push your ideas onto them. The line on how much you can care for one another should be made clear.

Ouch! I had no idea I moved into the land of interference until I read the above horoscope for September 29. I thought I was being a kind, loving and caring sister, Godmother and aunt looking out for the people she loves the most. I had no idea I intruded on their right to make mistakes and learn from them. I had no idea I’ve been pushing my ideas onto them. This was and is a big wake up call.

Surround yourself with the best people you can find, delegate authority, and don’t interfere as long as the policy you’ve decided upon is being carried out. ~ Ronald Reagan

From this point forward, I’ll no longer be interfering in the lives of my sister, niece and nephew. If they need or want my help, they can call, email or Skype me. It’s true; I want the best for them. But they have free will and can do whatever they want. On the flip side, I’ll no longer be a willing participant in their or other peoples’ Private Idaho’s. Everyone has the power within them to shift their lives for the better. It’s up to each and every one of us to tap into that power and change. No one can do it for you.

“Anytime there is a struggle between doing what is actually right and doing what seems right, then your ego is interfering with your decision.” ~ Darren L. Johnson