Life’s Too Short to Keep Track of Who Did What to Whom

Angry Talk (Comic Style)

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Last week I watched Mrs. Doubtfire and my ears perked up at the end of the movie when Sally Field’s character Miranda Hilliard said the following to Robin Williams character (Miranda’s ex-husband) Daniel Hilliard aka Mrs. Doubtfire, “I don’t want to fight. I don’t want to rehash who do what to whom.” It made me think of how many people keep track of arguments and hurtful conversations. It seems like a lot of work.

Holding a grudge or constantly replaying what people said to you in your mind is exhausting and not good for your mental and physical well being. If you’re waiting for people to apologize, you could be waiting a long time. Most people are unaware they’ve hurt you or believe they did anything wrong. Forgive them and move forward with your life.

Consider the following quotes for a moment:

For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness. Author Unknown

Anger is one letter short of danger. Author Unknown

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt

If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot. Korean Proverb

Sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. Author Unknown

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha

Resentment is an extremely bitter diet, and eventually poisonous.  I have no desire to make my own toxins. Neil Kinnock

Constantly replaying hurtful conversations and memories in your mind will eventually consume and eat at you. Before you know it, bitterness and resentment will have settled into your body, mind, and soul. You could possibly create dis-ease within your body and mind which could have dire consequences. Learn to process your feelings and let go of whatever others have done to you. Look at how you participated in the events that lead to hurt feelings. This may not be easy, but it will be worth it.


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