7 Things You Can Learn from Small Children

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The neighbor’s to the left of me have two small girls and the neighbor’s to the right of me have a lot of grandchildren. The two small girls constantly scream their heads off as do the grandchildren of my neighbor to the right of me. The kids also use their imagination to tell stories. It’s amazing how they ramble on and on. They tell stories about talking animals and enchanted kingdoms. If they don’t like something, they don’t hold back. They tell their parents and grandparents exactly what they’re feeling and thinking in that moment. Of course, they say “No” without any hesitation. Adults can learn a lot by observing the children in their lives and around them.

7 Things You Can Learn from Children

1. Scream your head off. If you’re angry, frustrated, aggravated, agitated, depressed, sad, pissed off, etc. scream your head off and let all of your emotions out. You may want to do this in the privacy of your own home or while standing on top of a mountain. To quote Shrek, “Better out than in.” Get your feelings out of your body and mind. Remember, dis-ease usually begins as a thought and then manifests in the body. Do you really want this? If not, start screaming at the top of your lungs and let it all out.

2. Tell people what you really think. Often times, we hold back because we’re afraid of hurting others. If you don’t speak your truth, you’ll become angry and resentful. For example, if you’re tired of people calling you early in the morning, tell them to call you after a certain time. If you’re tired of people complaining and whining to you, tell them you hear them but won’t participate in their Private Idaho’s. Speak your mind and truth.

3. Use your imagination. For some reason, as we get older, we lose our ability to imagine. If you’re not happy with your life, figure out why. Figure out what you want and imagine how you’d feel if all of your desires manifested. Maybe you don’t want your desires, you only think you do. Get clear about what you want and start imagining your life the way you want it.

4. Laugh. Most adults forget how to laugh. They get caught up in the grind of their daily lives and forget how to laugh and smile. Remember, laughter is the best medicine. Rent a couple of comedies or go to the comedy club and laugh until your stomach hurts. You’ll feel a lot better.

5. Have fun no matter what you do. When’s the last time you had fun? You don’t have to be serious all of the time. Blow off steam by doing something fun like roller skating, riding the roller coasters at an amusement park, painting, hiking, white water rafting, crafting, or whatever tickles your fancy. Start having more fun in your life before your life passes you by.

6. Be you. Most small children could care-a-less what people think about them. They only begin to care as they get older because they observe the adults around them who are chronic people pleasers; they mimic the behavior of adults. Stop being a people pleaser and be you. Love and accept who you are. If you want to change, go ahead and do it for you and no one else.

7. Say “No” and mean it. The word no is a child’s best friend. A small child doesn’t hesitate to say “No!” You would probably benefit from relearning how to say “No” and meaning it. Stop doing things because you think you have to out of duty or obligation. Technically, you don’t have to do anything you do not want to do.


Be friends and hang out with people you really want to be around. Cut ties with people who only call you when they need or want something from you; they’re not authentic and are users. Stop hanging out with people who mistreat you or don’t show you the same respect as you do them. Stop taking on the emotions of others. True, people do the best they can; however, point them in the direction of a therapist and or life coach. You can be empathetic and understanding without taking on the emotions of others.

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  1. There are so many things we can learn from children and I think you did a wonderful job showing that! Thanks!

  2. Rebecca says:

    Thank you 🙂