How do You Get Self-Worth – Part 2

This is Part 2 of How do You Get Self-Worth.

What is self-worth? According to, the definition of self-worth is “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect; respect for or a favorable opinion of oneself.”

What does this mean?

It means you see yourself as successful and  competent. You’re a responsible adult who can handle life no matter what happens.

Read on to learn more about how you can get and improve your self-worth and esteem.

How to Get Self-Worth

Set Goals and Create a Plan to Reach Them

You may want to hire a life coach to help you set goals and create a plan of action to reach them. Start with small goals and build up from there.

Join a Support Group

Believe it or not, you’re not alone. Most people had crappy childhoods that have affected them in their adulthood. The good news is you can ‘undo what was done to you’ as a child. Speaking your story out loud is a great way to detach from it. Plus, you’ll see and hear that you’re not alone.

Say “I Love You” Every Day

Look in the mirror, deep into your eyes, and say “I love you.” This could be difficult at first but do it every day. Before you know it, you won’t be able to stop looking at yourself!

Change Your Mental Tape

You probably have an old tape playing in your head that goes something like this, “I’m not good enough; I must please others; I have to work hard; I have to take care of everyone, even though they’re adults and can take care of themselves; I’m ugly; I’m fat; I’m not worthy; I don’t deserve happiness; I can’t do what I want to do; and It’s hopeless.” It would behoove you to change the tape. You are worthy, you deserve the best in life, and you can do what you want to do.

Start Saying No

If you say “yes” when you want to say “no,” it’s time to learn the art of saying no. You don’t have to do something you don’t want to do out of duty or obligation. Chances are you learned this from your parents who were raised in a different time. It’s the 21st century. Say “no” and mean it.

Value Yourself No Matter What

Many people rely on their career to give them self-worth, but this is backwards. A career is ‘outside’ of you, and you deserve self-worth because you are you not because of what you do.

Accept Yourself and Be You

Don’t change to please others. Be who you are. If you like to do your own thing, do your own thing. If you love and appreciate the arts, love and appreciate the arts. If you enjoy going to rock concerts, keep ‘rocking out’ as long as you can. Don’t change who you are for anyone. Change if you want to, not because someone says you “have to” change.

You determine your self-worth. Let go of the pain others have caused you. Don’t become a martyr or victim. Stand in your power, speak up for yourself, and reclaim your self-worth. You’re here for a reason. Get to know who you are. Wipe the slate clean and start anew. Remember, your parents, relatives, friends, etc. have no power over you. The power lies within you. Grab a hold of it and don’t let go.


  1. Great post! Number 4 was really well put and a needed reminder for me. Also, I think affirmations are so helpful. At first they may feel odd, but they are worth the discomfort.

  2. Rebecca says:

    Thanks for the comment! Affirmations do help as long a person is ready to make a shift. Many people say affirmations but don’t feel or mean them.