Many women decide to have a child or start a family without realizing the consequences and responsibilities. A child is a huge responsibility and a joy at the same time. If you’re not prepared for significant life changes, you may want to reconsider having a baby
When you decide to become pregnant, make sure you know what to expect. Your life will never be the same once you have a baby. If you think you’re ready, you may want to think twice about it.
Responsibility
Having a baby is a huge responsibility. You’ll provide your baby with food, clothing, and shelter along with medical attention and eventually an education. You may not be able to go out with your girlfriends for some time. How does this make you feel? Your friends will be having a good time, dancing, letting off steam, and you’ll be home on a Friday and Saturday with your child. Think about it.
What happens when your baby gets sick? Who will watch your child? Nine times out of ten, women call off from work. Unfortunately, your boss may not understand. You may have to make other arrangements like having a neighbor, friend, or family member take your child to the doctor. What happens if your mom and family are 2,000 miles away from you? These are things to think about before you expect.
Plan to have your baby
Women usually get a rude awakening after the baby’s born. They have anxiety about putting their baby in daycare or leaving them at home with a nanny. Some women develop postpartum depression which only makes the situation worse. Luckily, you can overcome obstacles with the love and support of your community, family, and friends.
If you’re not comfortable with leaving your child in the care of someone else, have a plan before you get pregnant. What is your financial situation? How many months or years will you be able to stay home? Before you become pregnant, consult a financial adviser so you can plan to have your baby. It may not sound romantic, but it’s better than crying day and night because you have to leave your baby every day. Don’t forget to figure in an emergency fund because life happens!
Know what to expect before you expect
Before you become pregnant, speak to moms. Reach out to your community and get to know moms and moms-to-be. It’s like the old saying, “…know before you go.” Well, know before you have a baby. Ask moms the following questions:
1. How did you or do you juggle work and family?
2. What scared you about having a baby?
3. When did you know you were ready for a baby?
4. What support system do you have?
5. What do you do if you don’t have a support system?
6. How difficult is it to be a single mom?
Think about how your life will change if you have a baby. This includes your job, friends, leisure time, and family. A baby can bring joy to you and the world. Make sure you’re really ready for the changes and responsibilities that go along with becoming a mom. You’ll know when you’re ready. Don’t try to force it or do it because your mother-in-law thinks it’s time for you to have baby!
Rebecca