Online Dating: Is it the Same as Going to a Bar?

We all know that people use social media websites such as MySpace, Facebook, and countless others to find Ms. or Mr. Right. Don’t forget about dating websites like eHarmony and But, can you really find that “special someone” through online dating? It’s easier to tell if someone is lying when meeting them in person versus the internet. Of course, being a good judge of character is also helpful.

Is it easier to meet people online? After all, you do have the buffer of the internet. Perhaps a few online chats here and there can be helpful before deciding to go out. Of course, it would not be a date, but a pre-date. Meeting at a cafe or smoothie shop is very popular these days. It takes the pressure off of a “real date” and gives people a chance to meet then decide if the next step is an actual date. Think of it like interviewing. First, there’s the phone interview. Second, you meet with your potential new boss. Finally, a decision is made whether or not to hire you.

Is online dating the same as going to a bar? How do you know that you’re not being fed “lines?” Many people do not use a current picture of themselves. Some use a picture that is 10 years old! When you meet face-to-face, feelings of anger and disappointment surface because the other person lied. That’s not a good way to start a date. A second date is out of the question.

Online dating can be a good way to ease back into the dating scene after a divorce or breakup. It allows you to communicate with someone without any pressure. If you decide that you’re not ready to date, all you have to do is tell the person from the comfort of your home versus in person.

Be mindful when using online dating. If your gut instinct says this does not feel right, end the chatting straight-away without any hesitation. Woman, more so than men, have a tendency to go against their gut instinct because they do not want to hurt someone’s feelings or believe they are over analyzing the situation. Ladies, it’s time to get over that mindset. If it does not feel right, run do not walk! You’ll be glad you did. That goes for you men out there as well.

Have you met that special someone online? Did you meet them on MySpace, Facebook, or some other site? Inquiring minds would like to know!