5 Mistakes You Can Make When Your Brother or Sister Gets a Divorce That Will Hurt Them and Their Kids

Let’s face it; divorce happens and it happens all too often.

When your sibling goes through a divorce and there are children involved, it’s usually not a good idea to pit one parent against the other by using their children. How is this helping? How is this being loving and supportive?

Children of Divorce

Teens whose parents are separated have their world turned upside down. They no longer have two parents living under the same roof, and they may find themselves being separated from their sibling(s) if their brother and or sister choose to live with mom and or dad.

Separation and divorce aren’t something that children expect, but it happens far too often these days.

The last thing children need is an aunt or uncle messaging them on Facebook and blasting them about not calling and or spending time with their mom and or dad. Unless you live with your nieces and nephews, you don’t know the whole story of what lead to their parents’ separation/divorce.

Divorce Hurts Everyone

Separation and divorce isn’t something that most married couples expect to happen. For the most part they believe they’ll have a ‘happily ever after,’ but that can turn sour once you’ve realized you married someone you have no desire to be married to anymore.

When you realize that it’s time to get out of your marriage, you don’t need interference from family members who don’t know the entire story.

“Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass.” ~ Mary Kay Blakely

Aunts and uncles who stick their noses where it doesn’t belong don’t have their niece and nephew’s best interest at heart. If they did, they would offer to take them to the movies, on vacation, or just to have a chat. They would make it known to their niece and nephew that they are there for them no matter what instead of coming at them with ‘guns blazing’ through Facebook or some other social media website.

Don’t Play the Victim for Your Sibling 

If your sibling’s separation/divorce is painful then he or she could speak up about it. They could seek help from a psychologist and or life coach. Plus, if they truly cared about their spouse and children, they would do everything in their power to get them back instead of sitting on the sidelines and feeling sorry for themselves.

Sometimes, a spouse will act more like a child than an adult when they experience a separation or divorce. They lash out and throw temper tantrums. They whine and pout. And they try to get someone else to fight their battles. This doesn’t help your sibling — it only hurts them.

Anyone who’s had a sibling experience and separation, divorce, and or dissolution understands that it’s not an easy process. It’s mentally, emotionally, and financially draining. There are no winners in a divorce. The losers are usually the children because some parents expect them to take sides. This isn’t fair to kids.

So what could siblings do when their brother and or sister goes through a divorce, separation or dissolution?

5 Mistakes You Can Make When Your Brother or Sister Gets a Divorce That Will Hurt Them and Their Kids

Don’t message your niece and nephew through Facebook. Don’t send your niece and nephew a rude text message or IM them. If you really cared about them, you would pick up the phone and call them to see how they’re doing. You would offer to take them to the movies and out to dinner. You’d offer them the opportunity to go with you on vacation. If you haven’t given your niece and nephew the time of day, why would they care what you have to say?

Don’t mud sling. If you start throwing mud at your soon-to-be ex sister-in-law and or brother-in-law and their parents and siblings, you’ll only make them look good, especially in the eyes of the court. Bullying and harassing through Facebook is a ‘hot topic’ right now, and you could find yourself in deep doo-doo if you start slandering or defaming a person’s character. You may find yourself in a lot of trouble if you make false accusations and assumptions.

Don’t assume. In case you don’t know what assume means it means…”Don’t make an ‘ass out of you and me.” Unless you lived with your brother/sister and their kids, you have absolutely no idea what went on in their home. You weren’t there 24/7 — you don’t have all of the facts. Don’t assume that your niece and nephew lived in a wonderful and loving environment. Don’t assume that the home your niece and nephew lived in was neat and clean and not filled with the stench of cigarette smoke or animal urine. Don’t assume that your sibling was an attentive parent. Get the facts before you assume.

Don’t stick your nose where it doesn’t belong. Unless you have something positive to add to your sibling’s divorce, stay out of it. It has nothing to do with you. Only in extreme cases is it a good idea to get involved. But if it’s a matter of two people who’ve grown a part, allow them to handle it. You’re denying both parties the opportunity to learn life lessons if you try to ‘fix’ the situation.

Don’t tell your niece and nephew how they ‘should’ feel. You have no business ‘shoulding’ all over your niece and nephew. They have every right to feel angry, confused, pissed off, sad, etc. Give them a break; their lives have been turned upside down thanks to their parents splitting up. Allow kids to process their feelings in a healthy manner. Telling them how to act or how they should feel will backfire on you.

So…Will you stop being an ass of an aunt and or uncle for the sake of your niece and nephew? Will you let them experience their feelings? Will you allow them the decency to express themselves, the good, bad, and ugly?

If you don’t back off now, you’ll push your niece and nephew out of your life for a little while or for good. You probably didn’t think about that consequence. Remember the law of cause and effect states that for every cause there’s an effect, for every action there’s a reaction.

You can either be a loving and supportive aunt or uncle or you can be an overbearing bully. The choice is yours.

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How to Let Go of the Past and Move Forward: Get a Pedicure

After all, don’t all of us want to learn how to let go of the past once and for all?

Your feet carry a lot of energy. How do I know this? Keep reading.

When I lived in Chandler, Arizona (heaven), I attended the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts free Gifts and Graces event which is held on the first Friday of every month from 6 pm – 7:30 pm. Attendees, like me, were treated to various motivational speakers who spoke about topics ranging from life coaching to connecting with your angels.

KC Miller, the founder of Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, would often speak during Gifts and Graces. KC is also a toe reader. Yes, your read that correctly. She’s a certified toe reader. Cool, huh?

According to KC, “the toes are windows to your soul.” By reading a person’s toes, a toe reader can tell if they’re on the right path. By looking at a person’s feet, a toe reader can tell if they’re on the right path and what type of life they’ve had thus far.

You may have read about cell memory. Well, your feet and toes are made up of cells. If you neglect your mind and body, your feet will tell the story. If you’ve had a hard life, your feet and toes will tell the story.

You can run, but you can’t hide! Your feet take you everywhere.

This got me thinking about my own feet and toes. I never had a pedicure.

Crazy, right?

I think I watched too many videos on manicures and pedicures gone wrong which held me back from getting a pedicure.

Anyway … I decided to treat myself to a ‘Spa Pedicure’ and see what the fuss was about. I booked an appointment at Studio Zia. They’re in Parma, Ohio. If you’re in the area, book a pedicure. It was unbelievable!

I watched Chelsea (nail technician) work on my feet, I remembered what KC Miller said about our feet and toes. I wondered; could a pedicure help all of us let go of the past and move forward in our lives?

Keep reading to find out…

How to Let Go of the Past with a Pedicure

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A pedicure can help you let go of the past.         Photo credit: Stock Exchange

When you get a ‘Spa Pedicure,’ your feet are treated to a warm bath in a bubbling foot massage tub. The vibration from the foot tub is wonderful. You’ll unwind in no time.

FYI: What I liked at Studio Zia is they have one pedicure station. I was able to relax and fully appreciate the pedicure. You may want to look for a salon that has one pedicure station. This way you’ll have the full attention of the nail technician and won’t be distracted by other clients.

Chelsea worked on one foot at a time.

My feet were rubbed and my toes were trimmed, filed, and cleaned. Luckily, my cuticles weren’t that bad. At least, I didn’t think they were.

The best part of the pedicure was the exfoliating and foot mask. Who knew there was a mask for your feet?

As my feet were being cleaned with the foot file, I was amazed by the dead skin that was falling off. It made me think that I was releasing my past and letting go of that which did not serve me anymore.

After all, if you hold onto the past, how can you move forward?

My feet were exfoliated with a great smelling product, and again, I couldn’t help but think of everything that I was releasing. The gunk from my past was being removed — it was being rubbed out. After I rinsed my feet, Chelsea applied the foot mask, and I felt as if my feet were being sealed and protected with positive vibes.

After the foot mask was removed, it was time to polish my toe nails. I chose a pretty gold color (my other choice was green). Gold symbolizes happiness, power, strength, success, true friendships, wealth, and prosperity. Some believe wearing gold everyday increases courage and promotes personal power and willpower.

Choosing the gold color for my toe nails was my way of sending my feet a message that I want them to carry me forward onto the path of health and wellness, courage, wealth, success, true friendships/relationships, prosperity, and abundance.

There you have it! A pedicure can help you let go of the past and move your life forward.

Don’t believe me?

Try it for yourself.

Get a pedicure.

Book an appointment today. 

Can You Catch Depression?

Depression can be a peculiar disorder, especially for those who’ve never been depressed a day in their life. What happens when you’re feeling depressed? Are the feelings truly yours? Or, do they belong to someone else? Can you ‘catch’ depression like you catch a cold?

Below are some tips to help you deal and interact with the depressed people in your life:

7 Steps to Interacting with the Depressed People in Your Life
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Notice when your feelings are off.

If your home environment has been turned upside down, and you find yourself living with someone who’s depressed, you could experience emotional highs and lows. Step back and ask yourself, “Are these my feelings?” You may be surprised to find out that they’re not your feelings.

If you’re empathetic, you become like a sponge and absorb the feelings of others. It’s important to clear yourself and energy field every day. You could meditate; take sea salt baths, etc. to rid yourself of lower energies that are not yours.

Stay positive.

There’s no reason for you to stifle your upbeat, positive attitude. Be who you are, even when you’re around those who are in a state of depression.

Send them love and light.

You don’t have to totally cut-off the depressed people in your life. Send them lots of love and light and try to uplift their spirits.

Don’t take anything personally.

This can be easier said than done. But try not to take things personally. If someone says something nasty to you, know that it has nothing to do with you. People usually say things out of aggravation and frustration.

Laugh!

Laughter really is the best medicine. Watch comedies or listen to comedy records. Watch funny YouTube videos! Do whatever you can to laugh and shift your mood when you’re around someone who’s depressed.

Have an attitude of gratitude.

Be thankful that you’re not in a state of depression. You probably have no idea what the depressed people in your life are going through. Be as understanding as you can and don’t fall into the trap of trying to ‘fix’ everyone’s problems. You can’t fix it.

Consult with a psychologist or counselor.

It wouldn’t hurt to speak to a professional if you’re surrounded by people who are depressed. You could learn how to deal the people in your life who are depressed and learn more about depression. The more you know the better you’ll be able to understand why and how someone becomes depressed.

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Warning: Law of Attraction Works All of the Time

If you haven’t heard of the ‘law of attraction,’ you’re probably new to metaphysical and or spiritual topics. The bottom line is that law of attraction works all of the time. You may not think it does, but it’s working every day.

Many people (and you may be one of them) are sick and tired of being sick and tired. They’re broke and poor. They’re depressed and anxious. They’re fed up with their lives and want to change. What happens? They stumble upon the law of attraction and think they’ve found a cure. Wrong!

The problem is most people (and you’re probably doing it right now) focus on what they don’t want or have. They go throughout their day and don’t realize they’re programming their subconscious mind.

Does this sound like you?

  • I hate my boss.
  • I can’t stand my spouse.
  • I hate my mother-in-law. Why does she always butt-in?
  • Why can’t I get ahead?
  • Oh God! It’s morning. Is it Friday yet?
  • Why can’t these kids do as they’re told?
  • What did I do to deserve this?
  • When will this life be over?
  • Why can’t I earn enough money to pay off my debt?
  • I need more money.
  • It’s hopeless.
  • I’m still in debt.

You probably resonated with one or more of the above. Don’t worry; you’re not alone.

The good news is that you recognize that you’ve been ‘negatively’ creating. Instead of focusing on the solution, you’ve been focusing on the problem(s).

It’s an eye-opener. Right?

Bless everything and everyone that’s come into your life that may seem like a challenge. There are lessons to be learned. The sooner you learn them, the faster you’ll be able to manifest what feels natural to you.

Follow the steps below to stop focusing on your problems and start attracting what you want into your life.

Law of Attraction: How to Attract What You Want 
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Stop focusing on your problems.

This is easier said than done. But if you want to attract that which you want, it’s important to release your problems.

As Sonia Choquette would say, “Bless your mess.”

This sounds counter-intuitive. But if you keep complaining about your problems, you’ll attract more of the same.

Stop whining about this and that. Give all of your problems to God, creator, universal intelligence, spirit, or whatever term you use.

Release your problems once and for all. You’ll probably feel lighter once you turn everything over to a higher power.

Focus on the resolution.

What’s the opposite of being in debt? It’s being debt free. Furthermore, it’s prosperity.

Look at your life and see where you can find prosperity. Here are some examples:

  • You own a home.
  • You have a car and can afford to put gas in it.
  • You have a job. It may not be the one you want, but you receive a weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly paycheck.
  • You have a loving spouse/partner.
  • Your children are healthy.
  • Your parents are still alive.
  • Your grandparents are still alive.
  • You have food in your refrigerator.

Look at your life and you’ll find prosperity somewhere.

Instead of focusing on your credit card debt, thank God that it’s been paid off. Focus on the resolution. Don’t get caught up in the solution because you’ll drive yourself nuts!

Have faith and trust that everything will work out.

Feel good now.

Abraham-Hicks always say, “Feel good now.” If you’re constantly waiting for something, whether it is a windfall of money or weight loss, you miss out on feeling good now.

Be happy now, even though you’re still in debt or haven’t published your book.

Feel good now, even though your weight isn’t where you’d like it to be.

If you feel good now, you’ll attract more situations into your life that make you feel good. You’ll attract loving and supportive people, and the cranky ones will skip right out of your life.

Feel good now, be happy, and watch as the universe delivers you opportunities and people that you could have never imagined.

Use the above steps to use the law of attraction to your advantage. Focusing on problems creates more problems. Focus on the resolution, but don’t focus on ‘how’ your problems will be resolved. Follow your intuition and take the proper action. Give thanks that all is well and it will be.

What Conscious Women Want from Men Partners

This is a guest post from Dr. Jim Sharon. He’s a licensed psychologist and certified life coach and has served in private practice in Colorado since 1977, specializing in men’s issues, couples counseling,wellness and in practical spirituality. He co-owns Energy for Life with his wife Ruth and is the Founder/Coordinator of Whole Man Expo and Whole Man Network in the Denver metro area. 

What Conscious Women Want from Men Partners

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A “conscious” person is one whose attitudes/values and actions are centered on overall well-being and development of oneself and others, including the environment and planet.

I have been married 41 years to a highly-conscious woman and have raised two daughters who are steadily following in their mother’s footsteps. Also, I have about four decades of experience working with “conscious” women as a therapist, consultant and seminar facilitator. Based on my extensive experience, here are some key qualities in men partners that women seek:

  • Foremost, high-functioning women want their mates to deeply appreciate, cherish and respect them. They want to be experienced and listened to on a heart level. With an aversion to being dominated or controlled, these women are drawn to men who, like themselves, seek an egalitarian relationship. These guys tend to have both a collaborative and assertive nature. While directly expressing their viewpoints,they communicate and resolve conflicts in a clear, “clean” and respectful manner. Furthermore, they typically collaborate with their female partners in parenting,sharing household tasks/chores, and in joint decision-making.
  • Distinctly “conscious” women place a premium on mutual personal development and on growth as a couple. They are especially attracted to well-balanced men, who integrate traditional male and female traits—i.e. they are androgynous. Such men blend inner-direction with being active “in the world.” For example, in addition to enjoying career success and being sociable, these guys tend to be introspective, emotional and spiritually-based. Although desiring various forms of intimacy with their partners, “strong” women prefer a lot of independence and want their men to need considerable autonomy, as well.
  • Essentially, “self-possessed” women, who have genuine self-esteem, seek male partners who are clearly “comfortable in their own skins” and in turn, are available to champion and nurture their overall well-being.

To learn more about Dr. Sharon and his wife Ruth, please visit Energy for Life and Mens Anthology.

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Turn Your Life Around Now in 3 Easy Steps – Get Out of the Elevator to Hell

 

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You can turn your life around now. The question is, “Do you want to put in the time, effort, and work to do so? You can choose to leave the drama where it belongs … on the pages of a novel or on the movie screen. It’s up to you!

If you want to turn your life around, look inside of yourself and you’ll find out why you’re unhappy, in debt, keep repeating self-sabotaging patterns, etc. What’s at the ‘root’ of the issues you face in your life? Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty and do the work to heal anything in your life that needs it. 

Turn your life around now in 3 easy steps

1. Stop blaming others! It’s easier to blame your parents and childhood; society, teachers, etc. It probably was tough growing up within a dysfunctional home but you could look on the bright side. You now have a choice to dis-associate from your past. Bless and learn from it and move forward with your life. The situations you face made you stronger than you know. They can help you turn your life around now.

2. Take responsibility for your life. The fact of the matter is you’re responsible for your life. Of course, it would have been useful if someone would have told you that you are the co-creator of your life. It would have been helpful if someone spoke to you about the ‘laws of life’ such as the law of attraction, law of cause and effect, and others. Luckily, you can turn your life around now by focusing on that which makes you happy. You can turn your life around by surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people. Turn your life around now, and you’ll turn your future around for the better.

3. Examine the people in your life. If you want to turn your life around, you may have to make ‘life’ changing decisions such as cutting ties with certain people. Do the people in your life add value to yours? Do you add value to their life? Do they mirror your thoughts and beliefs? Jim Rohn has often said, “You’ll be able to tell how much you earn by looking at the five closest people to you.” This is true. If you’re not earning what you desire or believe you could be earning, listen to the way those around you speak. Do they speak favorably about their career and income? Or, do they complain and blame others? 

If you want to turn your life around now, it can be done. Sometimes, you have to  fake it until you make it. Imagine yourself living the life you’re meant to live. What are you doing? Where do you live? Who’s in your life? How does it feel? Using your imagination can be used turn your life around now. If you’re not certain on how to do this, volunteer at a children’s organization. You’ll learn how to use your imagination in no time.

Amandah 

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How to End the Year and Plan for the New Year in 7 Easy Steps

Yesterday, for the fun of it, I pulled three Tarot Cards from the Lifestyle section of MSN.com. I received the Five of Cups for the Challenges card. My question was, “What career path is right for me?” Here’s an excerpt:

When the Five of Cups is in this position, maximize what is left after loss. The receiver of this card received copious potential in the five cups shown, but three of them have been upended and their contents spilled into the earth. Whether it was carelessness or destiny that spilled these cups isn’t ultimately important.

The ending of the reading got me to think about this year and the challenges I faced. Actually, it’s been a challenging four years! Even though I have 3 cups that spilled, I still have 2 cups left. I can use them wisely to rebuild my resources. I can make the best of what is left and cultivate a new beginning. I can stay optimistic.

I use the word ‘plan’ in the title of this blog post very loosely. There’s a saying, “Man plans and God laughs.” True, you can’t plan everything in life; however, it helps if you have a ‘general idea’ of where it is you’re going or what you want to do. It also helps to Let Go and Let God which means … Throw your intentions out into the universe and release them. According to Les Brown, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” End the year with a little self-reflection and preparation for the New Year. Below you’ll find tips on how to do that.

How to End the Year and Plan for the New Year in 7 Easy Steps

1. Reflect on the year by asking the following questions:

  • What did I learn about myself that I didn’t already know?
  • What obstacles did I face? How did I overcome them?
  • What was good about this year?
  • What was not-so-good about this year?
  • What were the BIG LESSONS from this year? What did I learn from them?
  • How did I strengthen my spiritual growth?
  • How did I evolve?
  • What was my biggest success? What was my biggest blunder?
  • How did I self-sabotage myself this year? List the ways.
  • How many people moved out of my life? Why? What did I learn by them leaving?
  • How many people moved into my life? How did I draw them to me?
  • Anything else I might add.

2. If you moved during the year, remember the following, “When you move, you take yourself with you.” If you move again in the New Year, remember you take yourself wherever you go. Be mentally, emotionally and physically prepared to move.

3. Write letters to people who’ve hurt you or vice versa. Please do not mail these letters! This is an exercise for you to exercise these people from your mind.

4. Accept what happened during the year and release it. Do not carryover any grudges to the New Year. Forgive and let them go. What’s done is done. Learn from it and move on with your life.

5. Give thanks that you made it through another year. Be thankful you survived the year. The New Year is a blank slate. Do not take it for granted.

6. Become very clear about what it is you want for your life, for the New Year. Write down your dreams, hopes, and desires. Stop focusing on your current reality and start writing a script for your life. What does your life look like? What career do you have? Who’s in your family? What kinds of people surround you? Write it all down.

7. Focus and mediate on what your life will look like in the New Year. Once you become clear about what it is you want for your life, focus on it. Don’t focus on the how or when. Just focus!

Amandah

 

 

Thornton Wilder’s Our Town Teaches You to Appreciate Life

Recently, I re-read Thornton Wilder‘s Our Town. I read this play when I was in high school. But like most teenagers, I never really paid attention to it. I rediscovered Our Town by watching an episode of My So Called Life on Netflix. Rayanne, Angela Chase‘s party animal of a friend, tries out for their high school production of Our Town and is cast as Emily and delivers a remarkable performance. It was a tear-jerker.

Synopsis of Our Town

Our Town is introduced and narrated by the Stage Manager who welcomes the audience to the fictitious town of Grover’s Corner, New Hampshire on a May morning in 1901. The stage is sparse and the Stage Manager introduces the characters; they pantomime their activities and chores throughout the play. The ‘big event’ of George Gibbs and Emily Webbs wedding happens in Act II. The ‘bigger event’ of Emily’s death in childbirth happens in Act III. The audience sees the town gathered in the cemetery for Emily’s funeral. They also see the deceased residents of Grover’s Corners at the funeral who try to warn Emily not to go back and observe her childhood. Emily realizes they were right after she sees her and her family and how they really weren’t ‘present’ in each other’s lives.

What Our Town Can Teach You about Life

It’s in Act III where Emily realizes that the residents of Grover’s Corner don’t realize life while living it. They hurry through their days without noticing what’s happening around them; they brush-off their children because they’re too busy preparing meals or cleaning. They don’t stop to savor their food and drink, clothing, sleeping, etc. They won’t know how much they missed until they die and then it will be too late.

Today, most people waste time in various ways from being couch potatoes to hurrying about from one place to the other. They play video games instead of getting outside in the sunshine and exercising. They waste time worrying about this and that; they waste time being lazy. To quote Simon Stimson, “they move about in a cloud of ignorance; to go up and down trampling on the feelings of those … of those about you. To spend and waste time as though you had a million of years.” I couldn’t have said it better.

Our Town may have been published in 1938, but its message is applicable today. If people don’t realize what a precious gift life is, they’ll have regrets on their deathbed. They’ll have wished they did this or that; wished they would have taken more risks; wished they would have taken a job opportunity in another state or country; and so forth. Don’t allow this to happen to you! Pickup a copy of Our Town and learn from the people in Grover’s Corners. Allow Emily’s spirit to teach you that life is in the here and now. Once it’s gone, that’s it. There’s no coming back and rejoining the human race.

Amandah

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Interview with Farouk Radwan of 2 Know Myself — Part II

Here’s Part II of my interview with Farouk Radwan, owner of 2 Know Myself.com, a website that offers visitors practical solutions to most life problems. 

About Farouk

Farouk Radwan is the founder of 2knowmyself.com, the one who wrote all the 2000+ articles found on the website and the author of all 2knwomyself.com’s books.

He’s a motivational speaker and trainer, he is studying psychology since he was 17, in addition he is the owner of the company Empowerment (based in Egypt) which is specialized in delivering personal development courses to individuals and corporations.

Learn more about Farouk Radwan at 2 Know Myself.com.

Interview Questions

1. I noticed the article category titled “Attraction Psychology.” What is it? How does it work? 

All research findings have shown that attraction, like any other process, is governed by rules. If someone managed to know these rules then certainly he will be able to use them to attract others to him.

The Attraction psychology section in the site attempts to explain how attraction works. It also contains practical advice that can help people attract friends or even lovers to them.

2. The book How to make someone fall in love with you (Based on the psychology of falling in love) sounds intriguing. If someone doesn’t want to fall in love with you, how healthy is it to make someone fall in love with you? How effective is it for long-term relationships? If someone brain washes another into falling in love with them; wouldn’t the relationship be considered fake or false? What happens when ‘reality’ sets in? 

People always ask me that question because it touches an important ethical point. Any kind of knowledge can either be used in a good way or a bad way. For example, if you really love someone then you will have to change personality in order to appeal to him instead of fooling him just to let him believe that you are the one he is looking for.

The previous advice covers half of the techniques in the book. The second important point is that sometimes the main reason people fail to attract others is that they do behavioral mistakes. By changing their behavior permanently in such a way that makes them more attractive they will manage to attract the person they love and they won’t be fooling anybody.

3. What do you hope visitors gain from visiting to 2 Know Myself? 

I really wish to make people live better lives. If someone was feeling really bad, and I managed to life his mood even a little bit then I will feel really happy.

I want people to learn how to deal with their emotional problems so that they can live happier lives.

4. What is your personal philosophy?

Life is like a battle, only those carrying swords cut their way through.

In other words, life is not simple. It was not designed for the lazy or for the coward. If you want to reach what you want in life then you must be brave and start fighting back.

5. Anything you’d like to add? 

Well it’s not about me but it’s about you. I think your blog, MisticCafe.com is really helping people as well and that’s why it caught my attention. I am really happy that I got this chance to know you. Just keep up the good work. 🙂

I’d like to thank Farouk for his interview. I found his website to be very useful and refreshing because it offers practical solutions to life’s problems. I love science and like how Farouk ties in psychology and science within his materials.  ~ Amandah

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Interview with Farouk Radwan of 2 Know Myself — Part I

Here’s Part I of my interview with Farouk Radwan, owner of 2 Know Myself.com, a website that offers visitors practical solutions to most life problems. 

About Farouk

Farouk Radwan is the founder of 2knowmyself.com, the one who wrote all the 2000+ articles found on the website and the author of all 2knwomyself.com’s books.

He’s a motivational speaker and trainer, he is studying psychology since he was 17, in addition he is the owner of the company Empowerment (based in Egypt) which is specialized in delivering personal development courses to individuals and corporations.

Learn more about Farouk Radwan at 2 Know Myself.

Interview Questions

1. What as the motivation behind creating 2 Know Myself? Why did you create the website?

I was passionate about psychology and after reading for years I felt that I have something to deliver to people through my writings. Honestly, I had the intention of making it an internet business since the first day I started.

2. What makes 2 Know Myself different from other personal development and or self-help websites? 

2knowmyself offers practical solutions to most life problems. You can hardly find an advice on 2knowmyself that is just based on a theory or my personal analysis, but instead you will only find practical advice that is backed by research findings and real life experiments.

2A. What do you think of the ‘new age’ movement in the 21st century? Can people really transform their lives by reading popular books like The Secret and others like it? Is it that easy to ‘think a thought’ and change your life? Or, is there actually work involved? 

Of course, I believe people can dramatically change their lives through books and personal development. However, when it comes to The Secret I strongly believe that positive thinking that is not backed by hard work and real life actions will not lead anywhere. Let’s suppose a person wants to lose weight, if he lied in bed and started imagining his ideal body he will only gain more weight unless he starts moving!

So … positive thinking, optimism and all of these factors can help the person who takes actions and not the one who lies in bed waiting for miracles to happen.

3. What is NLP and how can it help people change their lives for the better? 

NLP in fact is not a new science; it’s just a collection of information that was already available before in the form of complex psychological principles. The people who came up with NLP simplified this complex information into simple techniques in such a way that allowed the average person to apply them and make impressive changes to his life.

4. What would say is the “Number 1” obstacle in peoples’ lives? How can people overcome the obstacles in their lives?

False beliefs! A human being can do whatever he believes he can do, that is the only weak point in the chain is his own belief system. Let’s suppose that I had to lift a heavy object in order to keep moving in the same direction. If I was a very powerful man but believed that I am weak, I will never try to lift the weight that is standing in my way and will become helpless.

In short, without false beliefs you can do miracles.

This concludes Part I of my interview with Farouk. Part II of my interview with Farouk will post tomorrow.

I’d like to thank Farouk for his interview. I found his website to be very useful and refreshing because it offers practical solutions to life’s problems. I love science and like how Farouk ties in psychology and science within his materials.  ~ Amandah

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