Are you engaged to be married?
You may think that you’ve found Mr. Right, but think again.
Because love can be blind, and you ignore red flags that you’re about to marry the wrong man.
Let’s face it; when you fall in love, you’re on cloud nine and thrilled that you’ve found a partner whom you can spend the holidays such as Valentine’s Day with, someone to snuggle up to on a cold night.
But, do you know your man like you think you do? How well do you know his family?
In the beginning, your relationship may be sugar and spice and everything nice, but as you get to know each other, you may see your significant other in a different light.
Before you walk down the aisle and say “I Do,” check out the warning signs that you’re about to marry the wrong man. Save yourself from heartache now rather than later.
7 Warning Signs You’re about to Marry the Wrong Man
1. He’s a mama’s boy.
You may think it’s admirable that your fiancé’s mother cooks and cleans for him, but what do you think will happen when you’re married? That’s right. You get to pick up where his mom left off. Do you want to be a wife to your husband or a mother? After all, you’ll most likely work 40 or more hours per week, like your husband. Shouldn’t there be equal household responsibilities?
2. He has control issues.
When you want to get your haircut, does your guy give you hard time? What about when you want to spend time with your friends? Does he insist on going with you? These are a couple of signs that your guy has control issues. Think twice before you get married, because control can turn into physical, mental and emotional abuse.
3. He will only hang out with his family and friends.
Ever notice how you spend most of your time with your fiancé’s family and friends? When this happens, your family and friends will feel neglected. Have a chat with your man and make it clear that there has to be a balance between hanging out with both sides of the family and both sets of friends. If he disagrees, you may want to rethink his proposal.
4. He doesn’t say, “I love you.”
Some guys have a difficult time saying, “I love you.” But you’d like to hear him say those words, right? Have a heart-to-heart with your guy and get to the root of why he can’t express his feelings. Perhaps he was taught that a man is not supposed to show his feelings. If this is the case, reassure him that it’s OK for him to be vulnerable. If it’s not the case, you’ll have to think about whether or not you can live without hearing your husband say, “I love you.”
5. He puts you down in public and private.
Do you want to marry someone who treats your like dirt and doesn’t respect you? When you’re married, do you think your husband will stop insulting you? Maybe, if he seeks counseling. Then again, maybe his family has a pathology or history of abuse. Perhaps he saw his mother treated horribly by his father. Think about the kind of marriage you’ll have. Think about the kind of marriage you deserve and want.
6. Your future mother-in-law runs his life.
Do you notice how your man has to call his mother when he gets home from work or a night out with you? Does he discuss his finances with his mother and allow her to make decisions about his financial future? If you think this will stop when you’re married, you could be in for a rude awakening. How much do you want your mother-in-law involved in your married life?
7. His finances are out-of-control.
Have you discussed finances? For example, does your guy have credit card debt that he’s not paying off? Does he have a checking and/or savings account? How about an investment portfolio? Before you commit to marriage, discuss finances. You want to create a solid financial future together as husband and wife. Think long and hard about entering into a marriage that’s riddle with financial catastrophe. You don’t want to ruin your credit, do you?
So, there you have it.
The seven warning signs you’re about to marry the wrong man.
When you notice red flags about the man you’re about to marry, think about if you want to get married. Have a conversation with your fiancé because it could save you time, money and possibly your life. Don’t feel bad if you want to call off your wedding. You won’t be the first woman to give an engagement ring back. It’s better to say, “I Don’t,” rather than to say “I Do” to a lifetime of misery.